December 2012 Moms
andrea.berg07
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Why do people not understand I have a schedule for my baby!?
andrea.berg07
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I am so frusterated with people thinking they don't have to follow my schedules I have set for our baby. Are they coming home with us to deal Witt the baby not wantng to be put down because you held them ALL day!? Grrr
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Re: Why do people not understand I have a schedule for my baby!?
wow, a schedule? as soon as I think my baby is on a schedule, she changes it up. I am not worrying about a schedule at this point because there are so many changes. I am just responding to her needs. I have read many times that what your newborn needs is to be held along with being fed and changed and to sleep. I think it is extremely important for them to be held a lot.
I am sorry that people aren't following your schedule, but they probably want to hold the baby because they are so excited. Try to remember that. We have seen a lot of the family with the holidays and I was hoping they would all want to hold her and most did. And she was fine.
Ummm newborns want to be held because they want to bond with you...
I understand a feeding and/or sleeping schedule, but a "holding" schedule? I find to be crazy.
Please elaborate more if I'm missing what you're saying.
In terms of schedules though, a friends daughter was in the NICU her first month and a half of her life and was on a schedule when she came home. That schedule was pretty much stuck with and the mom friend appreciated it. Her daughter was also being formula fed which lasts longer in the tummy than breast milk and will help LO sleep for longer stretches.
My baby is on a schedule - one she pretty much set herself, but she basically eats every 2.5 to 3 hours, is awake a little bit and then naps. We never really have problems because she'll nap with people holding her.
What kind of schedule do you have for your baby?
I actually have found the issue of other people understanding the need for a schedule to get tougher as kids get older and are taking one or two scheduled naps a day and have a bedtime. My in-laws seem to think that taking one nap in the middle of the day is the same for my toddler as him taking a nap in the morning and in the afternoon and as a result when they take him I always get back a very crabby child.
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Our LO in 4 weeks old and I'm not saying she is on a strict schedule, sorry it was the heat of the moment when I posted this. I love snuggling my baby girl, but when she falls asleep I try to put her in her crib, swing or on her boppy pillow. And when she needs to be fed we do it a certain way soo she isnt snuggled to much where she drinks a little and falls asleep. I know LO's don't need a strict schedule but I am going back to work at 8weeks and would like to have some sort of routine.
she gets plenty of snuggle/play time and interaction. I just don't want a baby that will only sleep when someone is holding her.
agreed if my mother in law doesn't get this soon I'm going to go crazy on her. I would say I've been trying the same when LO falls alseep in my arms to try to get her more used to sleeping in crib and such. -minus the times I'm falling asleep feeding her at night