Interesting article-helicopter parents

Re: Interesting article-helicopter parents

• Gismo123 member

  January 2013

  stepper1725:

  I know it's way too early to be thinking about college for our kids, but I think this article is pretty interesting. I've taught college classes and have been shocked annoyed when parents have emailed me about their adult child's grade. Right now, it's easy to say "I'll never do that when DD is in college", but who knows. Interesting to think about the role I'd like to have in her academic life. What do you guys think about the whole "helicopter parent" thing?
  
  https://chronicle.com/article/ManagingMillennialParents/130146/

  
  
  I will be involved in my childs' education 150 percent and yes hovering...BUT only till they graduate HS. Once they go to college it's their responsibility not mine to make sure stuff gets done. I will of course "help" if they ask but only to a limit, you have to draw the line somewhere....I think being a grown adult is that line lol.

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• khill86 member

  January 2013

  I was a very independent student. From elementary school, to high school, through university. I remember my mom very vividly asking if I wanted her to talk to a teacher for me in elementary school and I was absolutely mortified and begged and pleaded with her not to. She never did. By the time I got to university, my parents were totally uninvolved in my education. I applied on my own, waited for acceptance letters and opened them on my own, went through orientation, registered up for classes and bought books on my own, paid for tuition on my own, my parents never even asked about my grades. I remember thinking about how crazy it was that people brought their parents to orientation!
  
  I guess I can't imagine being any different for DS. I expect that he'll learn and grow independently in his education and I'll be at arms reach. To me, the whole point of post secondary education is to find who you are through learning. To become independent and selfreliant, so to me, hovering doesn't fit into that at all.
  
  The funny thing is that my mom called my older sister's college all the time and still even makes appointments for her. She is not independent at all, nor does she take chances or risks or even work towards anything challenging. Obviously my mom's coddling isn't totally to blame, but I'm sure it contributed.
  
  So in short, no, I won't hover. At all. I wouldn't be comfortable doing it.

  

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