Hi. Sorry I only pop in when I am struggling with something, but you ladies are always a big help when I don't know what to do or where to look for help.
I am curious what types of school experiences other ASD kids are having. Type of program, where it is offered, type of discipline.
I ask because my 5 year old son is in a class designated 8:1:1 that actually has 4 students (3 kindergarten, 1 first grader) 1 SE teacher and two aides. The class is in our home elementary school and he is integrated into a regular class at different parts of the day. Unfortunately, things are not going well. He is regularly getting sent home from school for what the principal calls "Safety Reasons" with 2 actual suspentions. Each time my son is sent home, he is given at least one discipline Referral. So many I lost track, at least 20. I have resorted to contacting his Dev.Pedi to put him on meds, we first tried Tenex now he is on Risperidone. He has a behavior plan, but it is useless IMO. It is a reward system, but it is the discipline system making him react so adding a completely separate system just complicates things more. I tried to tell them it wouldn't work, but the teacher, social worker and psychologist were so proud of what they came up with and assured me if it didn't work they would change it. Of course it isn't working.
I need something to change for him. And for myself and my family. I am tethered to my cell phone all day waiting for the call. My 3 year old has had to miss preschool multiple times because I needed to pick him up, she has also missed her speech sessions and we really can't go anywhere. I am concerned about going in and asking for a change only to have them send him out of the district to a BOCES program where he would be around more SN kids which would cause him to act out even more. His current Dx is PDD-NOS with many Aspergers traits (not written that simply) watching for, and most likely official dx our next appt, ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
Because people ask, here is an example of why/how he gets sent home. His class has 3 K and one 1st grader. The last day of class before break, the first grade classes all had pajama day. The kindergarteners did not. So during announcements, the first grader got to go change into his PJs. When he returned to the room, my son got angry because the 1st grader got to do something special he did not get to do. He ended up screaming and hitting the teacher, the principal came and two of them carried him to the office where he climbed on a shelf and kicked things. I was called to pick him up 25 minutes after school starts. He was sent home "for safety" with a nice new pink referral slip. He did NOT and never wants to be sent home, he gets so mad about getting sent home. That particular night, he cried a very sad cry at bedtime because he missed all the last day before break activities. He is well aware that he gets sent home due to his own actions, but still often blames others for doing unfair things that make him mad. In this case he went over all the things he could/should have done instead of yell/scream/kick but continued to blame the first grader for doing something special then blamed the first grade teacher. In this case, the 1st grader had also gotten chosen to do something special earlier in the week that my son first felt mad/jealous about but was able to control himself and get over it very quickly.
I just don't know what to do next. At home, he is pretty controlled right now. We aren't having these tantrums and outbursts, currently. He restrains a lot of impulsiveness at home and pays his time (time-out in his room) with little resistance. We did only get here fairly recently at home and it took a lot of work finding the right balance, but it frustrates me that at school it is so different for him. He will be so heart broken and have his spirits crushed if they move him out of mainstream school. They aren't telling me anything like that now, but I can't think of any other reason they keep giving him so many referrals (AKA paper trail) if they aren't trying to build a case to move him out.
Re: What is your ASD child's class structure like in school?
The only one I am aware of meets once a month at a time I can't make, but also I have met several members of the group and feel like we do not fit so I also haven't made much effort. I did email a local ARC today asking for help finding an advocate or someone who can help me navagate things.
I don't know what dxs the other students have, to my knowledge they consider the program to be designed for kids with behavior/emotionally disfunctional. I am pretty certain none of the other students have autism dx. The teacher is new, I think she did her internship and subbing in the building with this program but was not actually hired on until 5 days before school started. The psychologist, I think, has pretty much just worked in this school. Prior to this year, they did not have a kindergarten class in this program, only 1st grad and up. So working with kids in K is a little new to everyone.
In my district, K is only half day while my son's program is full day. So in the moring they join a K class for as much as that 2.5 hours as each child can manage. Right now my son is in there for only about an hour, the goal is to increase this for him but he just can't handle it. He then joins a 1st grade class for specials where he does OK, he loves specials actually. There has been some talk of integrating him into the first grade class for science as a reward but I don't think that got very far.
The school psychologist, with the help of the school social worker.
Nothing. All anyone has ever done to my knowledge is try to teach him to self regulate the emotion by punishing him for reacting. Then working on using his words.
The social worker in his current school came to our house once a week for over a year prior to him attending school. While she was here to help, a lot of the things she would try to put in place did NOT work. I don't mean that negatively toward her, just that it was a long road. But now that he is in school, they seem to be reverting back to all the things we tried at home that failed. As if they have to try them first hand themselves before they believe it. What he needs is a time-out room to cool down. They don't have one that is readily accessable to his classroom, even the one they have is nothing more than an empty classroom but it is on the opposite side of the building that requires passing the main office.
I have to disagree with you on this one. He actually will be. He is very attached to the school, mostly because the neighborhood kids go there. He does view them as his friends, and they do play with him. Especially the girl next door, she has really helped shape some of his better social skills and more importantly his confidence in having friends. He really would be upset to leave them.
I think talking to an advocate is a very good idea. It sounds like this school, as it is now, is not providing your son with an appropriate education. As PP have said, an FBA should really be conducted by a BCBA (board certified behavior analyst). Does your son's classroom take any data? This is extremely important when it comes to determining if a behavior program is effective or not. Anectdotal "evidence" should not be accepted. This would give you leverage as well, to say, look this isn't working, you need to change it. As a behavior analyst, I don't ever agree with sending a special needs child home due to challenging behavior. Part of educating a child with autism is teaching them appropriate behaviors.
Though it sounds like your son's current plan isn't working, consequences probably are necessary in order to help decrease challenging behaviors. But there must be an appropriate rewards system as well. In order to decrease a "challenging" behavior, you must increase an appropriate replacement behavior (therefor a behavior program containing both reinforcement and consequences is usually necessary).
Sadly, it may be necessary to send your son to a more appropriate school, though that would more than likely be the districts last resort due to the expense. It sounds like training is what is hugely lacking here. If your school doesn't have a behaviorist, it should! If it came down to it, changing schools may be the last thing you or your son wants, but often, it the right choice in the long run if your school can't provide your son with what he needs to be successful.