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Need to vent....am I wrong?

boodapug77boodapug77 member
in June 2013 Moms

Hi..I wrote on here a couple days before Christmas about my sister's kids having lice. And I was debating about going over for Christmas Eve and Christmas. Anyways, I ended up going.. taking extra precations..I wore a skull cap! I am lice free- Thanks God. But of course I was freaking out inside and uncomfortable the whole time. The kids were treated but days later my sister said she had it! She is freaking out...cleaning and doing all the things they say to do. The RID did not work so she is using olive oil/and combing. But she says she is still dealing with it..

So this morning I texted her to see how it was going. I basically have been finding info for her and sending it to her. She is frustrated. So I said" well I guess I won't be over for a while..being pregnant and all..don't want to risk it. Have my own pregnant problems." She totally had an attitude and was like "Yep, Thanks" :Don't come over then..I will deal with this myself like I have been" she totally went off. I am so mad. Like what am I suppose to do for her?...I am pregnant and need to think about my baby first, right?? What does she expect me to go over there and clean her house and pick nits out of her hair?? Is she being irrational and selfish? or am I just hormonal?? Not a good combo. Sorry this is so long...but I am upset she would be mad at me..Hello! I am pregnant! UGH!

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  • kaleyandjasonkaleyandjason member
    I don't think you worded it very nicely when you told her you wouldn't be coming over for a while. It sounds like you kind of snapped at her just because she is frustrated. It has to be hard to deal with lice.
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    I know..I feel bad I said it to her like that. I did say I was sorry. But I have been listening to her lice problems for a week and ask her all the time how she is doing. I just feel sometimes she forgets I am pregnant..and I am sure when she was pregnant that she would of been like me-the last thing I want is lice. I do feel bad for her and offer her advice and info I researched. I mean no one wants lice..It sucks.I know lice is not fatal but it really grosses me out. My sister and I never got lice in school so its all new to us..
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  • smittie417smittie417 member
    I agree with PP's, I think you both could have been a little nicer to each other.  Especially if this happened over text, it is hard to "hear" a sympathetic voice...so you have to choose your words even MORE carefully.  I would offer up an apology and maybe blame it on the text not conveying what you really wanted to say.  I'm sure she'll apologize too and it will all be behind you both.
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  • sweetrhythmssweetrhythms member
    I wouldn't want anything to do with lice even if I weren't pregnant. My sister would be getting a lot of moral support but I don't know that I'd be going anywhere near that house until the infestation was loooooong gone.
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  • ariaforte8ariaforte8 member
    I also agree with pps. You both could have been a bit more tactful. Sorry you're dealing with some added stress right now. 
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Yeah, sorry but I think you came off as aggressive whether you meant to or not.  It read like "Don't even think about asking me to come over there.  I've got problems of mine my own and don't want to deal with yours."  That may be true but the tone was bad and I would have been pissed if I was your sister.  I don't think you had to say anything about not coming over.  You answered an unasked question at a time when she's got a lot going on and just needed to vent.
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  • bumpuser8448316bumpuser8448316 member

    I think your comment was out of line.

    Lice is incredibly frustrating and I'm sure she has enough to deal with. Most people wouldn't have reacted kindly to that kind of message.


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  • boodapug77boodapug77 member
    Well, all is good now. I apologized to her..I didn't mean to sound like a B*tch but I guess I did. But I still don't want to go over there for awhile.
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