Did you discuss with your kids?
jlw2505
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Did you discuss the horrible CT school shooting with your kids? How old are your kids? If yes, what did you say?
My kids are 4 1/2 (5 in March) and in PreK and 6 1/2 (in kindergarten) and we choose not to bring it up. We turned off the TV and radio this weekend and while our Rabbi made mention and we had a moment of silence and said a prayer at Friday's night service, it was done in a way to not tell the kids anything that they may not already know about. If the kids bring it up, I will sit down and tell them the very basics but I just don't know that I need to tell my young kids about this.
I have been in tears off and on since I heard the horrible news on Friday - all those innocent lives lost yet I have kept it away from my kids. I hugged them more and loved on them more this weekend and especially this morning as I sent them both off to school. My DD"s PreK teacher posted about the changes she plans to make in class and she commented that she hopes the parents understand. I responded that whatever she wants to do to keep my baby safe (and all the others) is fine by me. I will happily deal with locked doors and extra security in the hopes that my girls can keep their innocence for as long as possible.
Re: Did you discuss with your kids?
I am so sorry - this must be so hard especially given that you are from the area. Sending hugs.
We talked about it very briefly. I just kept it simple: some people were shot in a school in Connecticut. That's why we have such good security at our schools: so stuff like this doesn't happen. We don't watch TV, so they haven't seen media coverage of it. We only talked about it because we knew there would be announcements in school about it.
Sure enough, the most they've heard about it is from the automated messages from their school principals on our phone.
We told them, except for dd4. They would have, and did hear about it at school. Dd2 had a hard time with it, because the kids were her age. We're still talking to her about it, and probably will for a while, she's pretty sensitive. DS has been talking about it with his friends, they're all appalled that someone would hurt little kids. DD1 won't talk about it.
We woke up to kids in out bed Saturday morning. They're scared. I haven't told them its happened near us before.
What?! I totally disagree! I think home is the place where parents should talk about it, if they decide that's appropriate.
I'm sure the school's goal is to minimize confusion and disruption in this last week before winter break starts, but to send home a note saying "don't talk about it" is really a poor choice.