XP: Taking a break

Svenny1011 · December 2012

I know I haven't been around much these past few months, but I just wanted to wish everyone good luck in the coming new year. I've decided to take a break from TB.......as well as a break from TTC. We won't be avoiding, just not actively trying. It has been an extremely emotional 15 months for me, and I just need to stop for now. I feel like my marriage is being pushed aside by this process and that is not okay with me.

I need to focus on my life as it is now - go on adventures, spend more quality time with DH, etc. I'm getting older (I'll be 34 this year, DH will be 40), and that does scare me that I may be losing time. But I'm also coming to terms with the idea that we may be childless. As sad as that is, I need to be okay with it since it is a very real possibility (neither of us want to go through IVF at any point).

I'm sad and heartbroken, but am looking forward to growing as a person / individual as well as a family with just my husband. Our 5 years of marriage has been crazy - moving, new jobs, getting married, husband being laid off, stressed about finances, miscarriages, etc. We need "us" time. I am slightly scared that if I do get KU, I'll have another miscarriage, but we'll cross that bridge if we get there.

Take care everyone!

leahaustin · December 2012

Sorry for your losses and stresses. GL in your future and marriage.

GermanGirl2007 · December 2012

I am so sorry Svenny. I wish you all the best, and hope that this is a really positive time for you and your DH. I think it's brave of you to have made some really hard decisions in an effort to keep your marriage solid and be good to yourself. Hoping that 2013 turns out to be a great year for you. ((HUGS))

JulianneJacks · December 2012

I hope that you have some wonderful adventures in the coming year! I will miss you- you always have the best recipe suggestions.I also love your pic of Betty Draper!

Best of luck to you and your family.

mmb248 · December 2012

DH and I are about a year away from where you and your DH are right now. We had a talk after last month was a disaster and a teenage cousin showed up pregnant... Again. Must only skanky 19 year olds be fertile?

It's so easy to let TTC become the biggest focus in your marriage and I think it's nice to take a break from it. Enjoy being with your husband. Who knows, maybe some of that "relaxing" everyone is always talking about will help!

direy25 · December 2012

I'm so sorry for your losses. Definitely take the time to just enjoy each other. I hope you have some great adventures and that everything works out for you.

thehunterswife · December 2012

So sorry for all that you have been going through. It does sound like you know what is important to you and you know what you need to do to pursue those things. Good for you and GL in your future endevours Big Smile

angelchild24 · December 2012

I am so sorry for your losses, and your stresses, Svenny. I hope that your break is exactly what you need. GL in the future, wherever your journey takes you!