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iamapixie
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RSVP Question
iamapixie
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Invitations for my January 16th shower went out about two weeks ago. My hostesses are concerned that they haven't gotten any RSVPs. Out of the 25 invitations that went out, I've gotten three declines via text and Facebook. Obviously there is a "RSVP by" date but at what point should I be concerned about zero confirmations? I'm not really feeling the love right now lol.
TTC since 07/2010
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BFP #2 01/23/12 MC at 12w. 2x Cytotek 1x Methergen; Genetic testing found Factor V Leiden and MTHFR. Started extra Folic Acid and Baby Aspirin then Lovenox
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Re: RSVP Question
Christmas JUST passed. Now it's New Years. Your RSVP date is the 12th. Chill. People have a lot going on and your shower simply isn't at the top of the list of priorities this week.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
She asked a simple question. Don't get your panties in a bunch.
OP, I'm sure more RSVPs will start trickling in. Things always get lost in the shuffle over Christmas.
In a word...yes. I would laugh my a$$ off if I got an invitation to a baby shower 2 months in advance. Wedding invites should only go out 6 weeks in advance. 2 months for a shower? That's just ridiculous. Oh and after I got done laughing, I would promptly forget that I received the invitation.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Hey, it's cool....we wouldn't want to be there anyway. My friends appreciate my snark, and it's reciprocated.
OP I bet next week you get a ton of RSVPs - some people may still be out of town for the holidays or just getting back into the swing of things - I know I am.
And I agree with the joseandjessica - no need to get nasty. It was a simple question. If you can't respond nicely, don't respond at all...Manners 101!
I agree. Unnecessary snark. Sounds like EastCoast is the one that needs to chill.
Anyways, as far as RSVP's, don't you worry about them. Your hosts will take care of any late responses. Just relax lol. No need to think about crying in your cake... if people don't show up... More tear-free cake to enjoy
Hmm...must be a bunch of newbies perusing the board today. That was nothing. And PPs are right. No need to worry now.
Not a newby here, just an oldie but goodie who was just reminded why she left...because of all the craycray women on TB! In response to OP, I'd wait until it got closer to your RSVP date to start freaking, then make some phone calls. Like others have said, with the holidays it was probably just put to the back of most folks' mind.
Im having my shower on the 19th as well. You shouldn't worry too much. Lots going on with people dealing with the Holidays. I have my RSVP date as the 5th since Im coming in from out of town. So I simply just sent out a few FB messages to people who haven't responded yet reminding them that the RSVP date is next Saturday. So I would wait until a week before your deadline and maybe email your guests and maybe disguise it by asking how their holidays went/ how their New Years is going instead of just straight asking if they are coming or not.
Hope this helps.
Personally if I were a guest I'd be PO'ed if I started getting facebook or email or text messages asking me if I'm coming or not and the RSVP date hasn't even come and gone yet. I ALWAYS RSVP but sometimes it is last minute. I sometimes need to get a babysitter and many times don't know if I need one until a week or so before the time I need one.
Wait until the RSVP date (maybe a lot of people are like me and wait until last minute to RSVP) or maybe a lot are like many of our wedding guests and just don't RSVP so they need to be called. It is your hostess' job to call/email/text/etc. them not you. Obviously if they contact you instead of the person on the invite you can let the hostess know...but otherwise you just need to stay out of it and relax.
RSVP'ing to your baby shower is not at the forefront of everyone's list of important things to attend to right now.
Honestly, if you were a casual friend and I started getting harassed about whether or not I was going to attend and the date to RSVP hadn't even come due, I'd probably find something to be busy with that date. Sending out invites in the heat of Christmas card season was not a smart idea because it most certainly got lost in the shuffle for a lot of people and probably won't come back to their attention until they start cleaning up from the holiday craziness.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.