I've been lurking on this board here and there and thought it was about time to post an intro. My history is in my siggy, but bottomline is we are pursuing IVF and DIA at the same time. Because of my age and advanced DOR, it's unlikely that I'd be able to have more than 1 child (if I can have any) and we always wanted a big family so we decided to do both.
We are in NC so if anyone has any experiences (positive or negative) with any of the local agencies or recommendations for agencies in neighboring states, I would appreciate any info you have!
I'm a bit worried because I've heard some agencies do not want applicants to pursue fertility treatments at the same time and some may actually take your name off the waiting list if you become pregnant. Does anyone have any experience with this?
Sorry for the noob questions, I'm still learning! Thank you for all the ladies who contributed to the FAQs, they were very helpful!
Re: Intro and questions about fertility treatments + adoption
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Yes, there are some agencies that want you to close the door on fertility treatment. For some it's a philosophical thing (focus on one route at a time), for others it's a logistical thing (potential for virtual twinning if you get pg and matched at the same time).
But like with most things, there's an agency for everyone. not all of them have this requirement, and it's just a matter of finding one that will work with you.
GL and welcome!
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01/10- Femara
03/10- Femara
07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1
08/2010- IUI #2
06/2011- IVF #1 BFP!
09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks
11/2011- FET
01/2012- Start Home Study process
03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us!
07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October!
11/10/12- our son is born!
11/13/12- court grants us custody!
12/28/12- finalization! Always ours in our hearts, but.now also ours forever
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Welcome. MH and I were/are in the same boat. We took a break from IF treatments to get the adoption process going with the intention of going back to IF treatments.
You need to be 100% upfront and honest with any and all agencies you meet with that you are still/will be undergoing IF treatments.
The agency we went with was fine with it and know that we are pregnant. They sent an e-mail a few weeks ago suggesting some things we could do to advertise ourselves at which time I told them we were expecting in July and that while we still want our names on the list, we weren't going to promtoe ourselves at this time.
I know with our agency you were asked not to pursue IF treatment and adoption at the same time.
I'm sure it varies by agency, though.
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Sorry for the duplicate posts!! We did IA, so not sure... but I was gonna say that this is what we found with a lot of agencies we looked at- both DA and IA. There are a few that don't care if you persue fertility treatments while you wait for a match... but if you do get pregnant, they want you to put your file on hold. I guess the just feel like its better for the kids to not have "virtual twinning" and to give your family time to settle into having one child before you add a second one. Like everybody else said, there are TONS of agencies out there, and if you keep looking, I'm sure you'll find one that works for you. Good luck!!
Hi, and welcome! It's great to see another NC poster on here. We are currently "advertising" on our own (using parentprofiles) but we met a couple times with the IAC office in Raleigh and had a good impression of them. We will likely go with them if our current path isn't fruitful. I'm not sure of their position on pursuing both, but I'd be happy to talk with you about our experience with them if you're interested -- just PM me. GL!