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Ladies I need your help!

TMILLER45TMILLER45 member
in May 2011 Moms
I'm going to try to make this short! We are displaced from hurricane sandy...still! We are staying at my in laws. DD has always been a good sleeper, bed time was always 7 o'clock with no problems. It good DD about a week to get adjusted to sleeping here but then she was fine. Now all of a sudden it takes us about and hour and a half to get her to sleep and we have to rock her! I just found out I'm expecting #2 and I'm sick as a dog and this behavior is not helping! Do you think this is a phase she's going through? Or just the fact that we are not home and it's not her room? Any words of wisdom or advice on what you think I should do ? I just want my good sleeper back!
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Re: Ladies I need your help!

  • Athena0809Athena0809 member

    First, I'm sorry you are in the situation your in due to the storm! Secondly, congratulation on that bump! Lastly, about the bedtime issue; it sounds to me that it may be a combo of not being in her own home/bed and a phase--since you mentioned she was fine after a week. Are you the only one in charge of bedtime or can you get help from DH or your in laws? If you are now rocking her to sleep it sounds like that was not part of the old routine and she is now getting used to a new routine and getting help falling asleep.

    I think you you have two options, keep rocking her to sleep and just "wait it out" and she may go back to her old self, or stick to the old routine even if there's some resistance on her part so that she gets back in the habit of falling asleep on her own.

    But most importantly, do what works for both of you and what your instincts tell you feels right. You have to take care all three of you now! Good luck mama!

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  • TMILLER45TMILLER45 member
    Thank you for your advice! We never had to rock her to sleep and I don't mind if I let her cry it out for a couple of minutes but my MIL freaks out! It's just been really hard living here with a toddler! I'm usually the one who puts her to bed but DH has been helping out. We are probably going to be here another 2 months since the work hasn't even started on our house because of the insurance settlement hold up. I guess I'll just go with the flow each night
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  • MamaTina083MamaTina083 member
    Hi. I just wanted to say I feel your pain. We (DH, DD, and myself) have lived with my parents for the past year recovering from DH being downsized just before DD's birth. I know how hard it can be to convince my own mother that I'm making good choices for my child. I can only imagine trying to do the same with my MIL. But the truth is you ARE making the best choices because she's your daughter, not your MIL's. If she needs to cry it out a few nights to get back in the swing of things, and you and DH agree this is okay, than you can't let MIL guilt you out of it. Try having DH talk with her about how CIO works and why you chose the method to begin with, especially how changing the routine can impact DD's sleeping habits in the long term. Suggest that she spend a few evenings out of the house if she really can't stand to listen. Just remember that the longer the routine is different, the harder it will be to change down the road.
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