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XP: Room Sharing Transition Help!

BigIsland07BigIsland07 member
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We have a 3.5 year old and a 9 month old. They've just started sharing a room (we're two nights in now) and it's NOT going well. Both children usually are rock solid through-the-night-sleepers, but since sharing a room 9 month old DD has been waking up in the middle of the night wanting to play. It's like she sees her big bro and will do anything to get his attention (plus, she's hungry after 5 or 6 hours without food). After an hour and a half of crying/squealing each night, we've given in -- bottle and she goes back to bed just fine.

 DS definitely gets up with DD, though last night he slept through some of her squealing.

The room has two night lights because DS is afraid of the dark, so DD can definitely see him. DS will NOT turn off any of the night lights. They do not nap together because DD wakes up sooner than DS (who naps 2.5 hours). 

They used to be in separate rooms, but DD was in our loft area and we have concerns about leaving her in there long term. 

I'm worred about both of their sleep. Would love any advice!

- One tired mama (and family)

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Re: XP: Room Sharing Transition Help!

  • Spin313Spin313 member
    Although you have concerns about her being in the loft space long term, I don't think now is the time for the switch. If they were both great sleepers before, I wouldn't mess with that.

    Do you only have one extra bedroom...? Is putting your 3.5 year old upstairs an option?
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  • BigIsland07BigIsland07 member

    imageSpin313:
    Although you have concerns about her being in the loft space long term, I don't think now is the time for the switch. If they were both great sleepers before, I wouldn't mess with that. Do you only have one extra bedroom...? Is putting your 3.5 year old upstairs an option?

    So maybe we should move her back and try again in a few months? I just don't see this getting better. She will always love her bro and want to play...I'm wondering if we should just stick through it. 

    DS woke up this morning and said DD woke him up, but he went right back to sleep. He said he slept, "Great!"

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  • meldoo2002meldoo2002 member
    I would stick it out.  I think the newness of it will wear off... though I wouldn't go feed your daughter if she's been STTN before this transition.  Either stick it out a few more nights or separate them so they go back to STTN and try again in a few more months.  

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  • rsd12rsd12 member
    We had an easier transition with our 1st and 2nd sharing a room when the youngest was 6months old.

    We had a horrible transition with moving our 2nd and 3rd in the same room when our youngest was 2 yrs old. But... so worth the sleepless nights in the beginning. They would keep each other up, wake each other in the middle of the night, wake each other in the morning... it took a good solid month, but absolutely worth it. No advice really, other than a little patience goes a long way.
    Boy 1 2/06 - Boy 2 12/07 - Boy 3 9/09
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  • Kitten80Kitten80 member
    Only a couple nights in, I wouldn't stress yet.  We normally make changes on weekends for that reason, it can be rough.  if he is going back to sleep, she will learn to go back to sleep. my dd was in our room, then her own room, now shares and overall she sleeps better with him in there - i think it re assures her to see him.  hang in there a little while longer.

     

     

     

     

     

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