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August 2012 Moms
bigbootyjudi
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"Attached at the hip."
bigbootyjudi
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I'm not sure what to do.
I'm home with Sergio usually. If I'm in the room, he wants me if someone else is holding him. SO has a rough time on the days I'm at work and says Sergio just screams all night, especially at bedtime. I can't do anything at home. He has to be able to see me at all times. He will be smiling, kicking away on his playmat and the second I step out of his eyesight, he's screaming, then fine when I come back in the room. He naps on me.
Is this not normal? I mean, every post I read is about how your babies love this item or that and are playing with such and such. Not my kid. He wants to play with me and that's it. Nothing keeps his attention and we have everything. I know you can't spoil a newborn...but he's not a newborn anymore. Am I spoiling him? What should I do? WDYT?
I don't mind, really, minus when I need to pee or pump. But, it makes someone else watching him almost impossible...and my poor SO.
Am I the only one?
I'm home with Sergio usually. If I'm in the room, he wants me if someone else is holding him. SO has a rough time on the days I'm at work and says Sergio just screams all night, especially at bedtime. I can't do anything at home. He has to be able to see me at all times. He will be smiling, kicking away on his playmat and the second I step out of his eyesight, he's screaming, then fine when I come back in the room. He naps on me.
Is this not normal? I mean, every post I read is about how your babies love this item or that and are playing with such and such. Not my kid. He wants to play with me and that's it. Nothing keeps his attention and we have everything. I know you can't spoil a newborn...but he's not a newborn anymore. Am I spoiling him? What should I do? WDYT?
I don't mind, really, minus when I need to pee or pump. But, it makes someone else watching him almost impossible...and my poor SO.
Am I the only one?
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Re: "Attached at the hip."
DS is the same, kind of. He's not as bad as your LO because he lets me leave the room and he lets DH take care of him a lot too. But right now my mom is here watching him so I can get some work done and there is a lot more crying going on. He doesn't like the way they hold him or nap with him or anything. It breaks my heart.
DS1 was the same way. It does get better although it will probably get worse too in a different way. Like when they get older and can run after you crying and hold onto your leg to try to keep you from leaving.
Right now I think you have to just keep being there for him even though it's hard. You are not spoiling him. He is showing you that he really needs you and relies on you and is attached to you. It won't last forever. I know that's not what you want to hear but eventually it will et better.
I don't think babies this young are capable of being "spoiled", it's just their temperament. It's actually great that our ds' are so attached at the hip, it shows they know who mama is and they can trust us completely!
This was my life up until 2 weeks ago. NO ONE could hold her, feed her, bathe her or put her to bed except for me. It is exhausting. I know. Honestly, I just kept having other people hold her and feed her. She was pissed at first... but then just gave in. She's much happier now. We go places and people play with her and hug her. My life is much easier because I get a break now. I barely held her on Christmas... unless she was having a tantrum. She still has times that she just want Mommy and they are so much more special now. If that makes sense.
So, my advice is to slowly try to break the habit now. Give SO a responsibility everyday... like bathtime or bedtime feeding. It'll be rough at first but eventually DS will figure out that daddy takes care of him just like mommy.
Good luck!
Both my boys are pretty needy and suffer/suffered from pretty serious separation anxiety from early on. It makes it hard to get stuff done. I basically have to run around getting as much stuff done as I can while DS sleeps, but when I look at how independent DS1 is now I try to enjoy DS2 needing me as much as I can.
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