No invites yet for Jan shower

runningyogimama · December 2012

I have a friend who offered to throw me a shower pretty much the moment she found out I was pregnant. She's talked about it a few times since, and the last she mentioned something was 3 weeks ago, when she said she was waiting for her manager to finish the January schedule (we used to work together, so quite a few people who were going to be invited are from work, so she wanted to plan around the schedule) in order to set a date and send out invites.

Well...it's now almost January, and I haven't heard from her about a set date yet. Is it rude for me to bring it up? If she changed her mind about hosting, it's really no big deal, but if she didn't, I kind of need to know for my own planning purposes so I can take off work.

Should I ask her about it? Or just assume that if she doesn't bring it up soon, she changed her mind? TIA!

gamergirl522 · December 2012

If the shower was supposed to be in January, and it's almost January I would go ahead and ask her. Tell her you wanted to make sure it was on your calendar and then if it's super close you can ask her if she sent invites yet.

1026pumpkin · December 2012

I think it's reasonable to ask her if she set a date so that you can make sure you have the time off work. If she doesn't get back to you, I'd drop it. Is it possible that she's throwing you a surprise shower and working with someone else to make sure you're available?

Ladiebug710 · December 2012

1026pumpkin:
I think it's reasonable to ask her if she set a date so that you can make sure you have the time off work. If she doesn't get back to you, I'd drop it. Is it possible that she's throwing you a surprise shower and working with someone else to make sure you're available?

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rhubarb123 · December 2012

Ladiebug710:

1026pumpkin:
I think it's reasonable to ask her if she set a date so that you can make sure you have the time off work. If she doesn't get back to you, I'd drop it. Is it possible that she's throwing you a surprise shower and working with someone else to make sure you're available?

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jobiann · December 2012

I fell into this same situation. I knew my sisters were going to throw me a shower, just wasn't sure when. I'm due January 10th. by the middle of November I was a bit concerned no invitations had gone out or a date even selected since the holidays would be thrown into the mix. So I just called one of my sisters and just asked if anyone had made any decisions. In my family, I'm the party planner so they honestly were not sure where to begin. I just told her someone just had to nail down a date and get invites out, the food and everything else would fall into place later. So she did, by the end of the day she had talked to my sisters and they selected a date and the next weekend invitations went out.

I felt bad poking my head in, but I also knew they just are not as organized as I am.

a&s05 · December 2012

I doubt she changed her mind. If she did that would be very rude not to have told you. I'm having a January shower(exact date time etc is a surprise) but I know invites went out end of November. When are you due? if its at the end of January she may be planning to send them out this week which would be 3-4weeks in advance. Thats enough time for a shower held in someones home. If its at a catering hall or restaurant she may have pushed it into February.

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