Reprimanding

RoxRing · December 2012

Any luck with reprimending your LOs? Do you just say no and redirect? E is OBSESSED with things he shouldn't be doing. Tonight at ILs he was trying to get into a drawer where there were knives and the more we said no and redirected, the more he wanted to go back into the kitchen.

He loves plugs and electrical outlets, which I always watch him like a hawk if we are somewhere where they aren't covered, but he screams if he can't carry our phone chargers around the house.

In the bathtub he stands up and turns the water on when we turn it off.

He loves caps on medicine bottles and is better at opening childproof caps then we are. We keep them away from him now...but we made the mistake of letting him play with empty ones because we thought it was easier at the time.

Some of the stuff is harmless I just don't know where to draw the line and how to reprimand. I know DH and I need to be consistent and we are realizing that now!

Stewartandmaura · December 2012

I don't have any advice. Sorry. The only time E listens to "No" is when it scares her or she can tell mommy got scared by what she was doing. I've been having to say it more firmly. Redirecting isn't working as well anymore.

I just wanted to say your siggy is adorable!

missyishere · December 2012

I think we just have to be diligent with redirecting and no's. The whole food throwing thing has me frustrated, but I just keep waiting for her to grow out of it.

CMonkey515 · December 2012

I wish I had an answer for you. When DS is getting into things he shouldn't I say a firm "No" and redirect. He completely ignores my "No". Every single time. He knows what it means, but acts like he doesn't even hear me. It's very frustrating. I don't think there is much we can do at this age though, except be consistent. I'm hoping he gets it eventually.

cantalopes24 · December 2012

You just have to be consistent. There isn't much you can do. If redirecting isn't working I will pick her up and hold her or stand in front of whatever she's trying to get into. I say no firmly and say what they shouldn't be doing like "We don't open drawers, no no, here's your baby doll"

awesnap · December 2012

We taught DD "hands off" with putting hands straight in the air for things like covered electrical outlets. For things she shouldn't have, like my cell phone I ask her to bring it to me which usually works. If not I switch it with a toy or start playing with a toy she really likes and she will drop it.

If we say no, then we stay consistent in enforcing the rule but let her whine about it. She is finally catching on and doesn't whine as much. But we try to save "no" for big things.

blu-eyedwife · December 2012

I pick my battles. Most of the time he does things for attention. So if I ignore or don't make a big deal, it quickly loses its appeal. This works for things like eating dirt or grabbing the remote or my phone.

For dangerous things like the oven or standing in the tub it's just removal from the area. Which usually involves tears and I'll sit with him and say "I understand you're upset, but we can't x,y,z." I'll then attempt to redirect, but if that doesn't work, I'll say "okay, you can cry for a little bit, and then go play with..." Repeat over and over.

kagl08 · December 2012

cantalopes24:
You just have to be consistent. There isn't much you can do. If redirecting isn't working I will pick her up and hold her or stand in front of whatever she's trying to get into. I say no firmly and say what they shouldn't be doing like "We don't open drawers, no no, here's your baby doll"

This. DS listens about 1/2 the time, but I can see him thinking about things before he does them now so I know my "no's" are getting through. He's just being really defiant and I need to be consistent. I never had this problem with my DD, so I'm in new territory. DS just doesn't listen and blatantly ignores me sometimes. It's infuriating. And I sound like a broken record of no, no, no all.day.long.

dlast09 · December 2012

I agree with consistency. Somehow we managed to teach S to give us things when we say "Please give that to Mommy/Daddy", he does it with out hesitation 95% of the time. And we also manage to have taught him to "sit on your bottom" when in the tub or in a seat. He has one of those toddler sized couch-like chairs from Osh Kosh. But when it comes to our big screen on the tv stand, he is very persistent and also gets obsessed with it. We have started giving a "pop", on his hand. No matter who punishes him, he still runs to me, oy.

vitan · December 2012

cantalopes24:
You just have to be consistent. There isn't much you can do. If redirecting isn't working I will pick her up and hold her or stand in front of whatever she's trying to get into. I say no firmly and say what they shouldn't be doing like "We don't open drawers, no no, here's your baby doll"

Ditto this. I'll say no to start but then tell her what she shouldn't be doing like "no, don't pull the dog's tail" and I grab her hand and/or move her away. Sometimes it has to be done several times but usually she's onto the next thing. Now if I could figure out the tantrums.

Creedon778 · December 2012

We put up the pack n play in the living room and give DS time outs in it for five minutes when he does something bad. He hasn't needed many but I'm not sure it's changed his behavior either.

LatteLady5 · December 2012

Spicy15:
We always tell him No firmly, and if he doesn't stop we get him and redirect (if we can). Lately everytime you tell him no, even if it's a simple"No baby that's not for you" kind of tone, he has an epic meltdown. Depending on how he reacts, I may sit him on my lap, and reitierate that's a no, and I know you don't understand why, but No No. He seems to understand while he can't whatever it may be, that mommy and daddy aren't trying to be mean.

We just stay consistent with him, and while he does understand No, we still have to constantly reiterate it. He definitely is all boy, getting into this and that and trying to figure out how everything works.

N is super sensitive too. She is actually a really good listener though and I really think it has to do with consistency and positive praise. If I say "bring that to mommy" she does 95 percent of the time. I always clap for her and say "yay for N!" Before I started clapping for her and making a big deal out of her good act she didn't always bring things to me. I really think it's made a huge difference.

I try to reserve no for bigger things, like hitting my face or biting my finger. (both have happened only a few times.) "Not for N" works well if I don't want her to touch it. We're also working on "not for eating" and she's starting to get that. She took a bite out of her yellow crayon today so obviously we're not quite there yet.

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