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Not sure what to do!

jeborerjeborer member
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Alright, here's the back story:

DH has a huge head. Like seriously, huge. We had to special order a motorcycle helmet (size XXXL) and it's almost impossible for him to wear a hat (none ever fit except stretchy beanies, and then barely). His older brother is the same way.

I talked to his mom about it, and found out that his older brother got stuck on her pelvis, so she ended up having to have a c-section. She had a c-section with DH as well. His head measured 14.5 cm! This is fairly scary to me, since I will only be dilating to 10 cm...

I know I am not her, and my body may be different, but it still scares me. My mother had 5 kids, all between 4 and 6.5 pounds, and did not have any cesareans. So I could be more like her too. 

We already have a date for an induction planned (for other reasons), but I am wondering if I should go ahead and schedule a c-section. I'm a FTM, and we don't know how many kids we'd like to have. I don't want to have an elective cesarean my first time and then have troubles down the line.

I'm thinking I should just go ahead with the induction and plan for a vaginal birth, but I'm thinking that there is a real possibility of having to get a c-section. Should I talk to my doctor and plan one, or just research them at least? I don't want my son to be in any distress, and I want him to be healthy and happy, so I want to do what's best for him. Just not sure what that might be! 

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  • mariamariamariamaria member

    Your OB will know what's best. Your baby's gene pool will be a little different than when you DH was born so while your baby may have a large head from your husband, it may not be as big as your DH was or your BIL. Plus your pelvis is likely different than your MIL's. Regardless of what your birth plan is, you should be prepared for a c-section either way. It happens. I was induced and labored for 15 hours before ending up having to get a c-section. 

    Again, I would share your concerns with your OB and they will guide you in what is the best decision. I'd also not panic about the prospect of getting a c-section. It isn't really horrible, although I wouldn't elect to have one as a FTM, when you get to that point and have to have one you'll do whatever it takes for a healthy baby. GL!

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    imagemariamaria:

    Your OB will know what's best. Your baby's gene pool will be a little different than when you DH was born so while your baby may have a large head from your husband, it may not be as big as your DH was or your BIL. Plus your pelvis is likely different than your MIL's. Regardless of what your birth plan is, you should be prepared for a c-section either way. It happens. I was induced and labored for 15 hours before ending up having to get a c-section. 

    Again, I would share your concerns with your OB and they will guide you in what is the best decision. I'd also not panic about the prospect of getting a c-section. It isn't really horrible, although I wouldn't elect to have one as a FTM, when you get to that point and have to have one you'll do whatever it takes for a healthy baby. GL!

     Thanks! I brought it up at my last appointment, but unfortunately my OB acts like nothing I want to talk about matters. I feel like I annoy her. And, unfortunately, there are not many OBs around that I can switch to. She's nice and all, but she rushes me through my appointments and makes me feel dumb when I ask questions. I am trying to get better at standing up for myself and asking things even though she does that, but still I'll bring in a list of questions, and then once I start asking them I end up skipping a bunch because of how she makes me feel. 

    So I just have to suck it up and make her talk about it, I guess. She doesn't really present me with options; I basically say "I'm concerned about this-or-that", and she'll say "don't be." or "that doesn't matter" or "just do this". It's not much information or much of a help to me most of the time, that's why I'm glad I have you bumpies to help with the smaller issues :) 

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  • meheron80meheron80
    Remember they do head measurements so they should be able to tell near the end.  My LO got stuck bc my dialation started to go back down when she was in the canal.  I had opted for vacuum attempt bf csection and after six attempts and some stitched after I had my little girl.  They were preparing me for surgery at the same time.  It will be ok I promise.  And in regards to a crappy ob,you dont see your dr much.  Mine checked in a few times, was there for pushing.  She came back 2 more times to check in and once bc I had an emergency 6 hrs after delivery.  Its the hospital nurses that are there for you.  Take your hospital tour and ask the nurses at the nursing station your questions.  
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  • OhSewCraftyOhSewCrafty member

    I'm assuming you mean 14.5 inches around? (That's how they normally measure.)

    Either way, my son was born with a 14" head and I had him naturally just fine with very minimal tearing. He was almost 6 weeks early and only 6 lbs, so that was quite a noggin on him! DH and I both have huge heads, so we knew he would too. Everyone is different and every birth is different, so dont feel like you need to jump to a c section right away. You will just have to play it by ear! Good luck! 

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    imageOhSewCrafty:
    I'm assuming you mean 14.5 inches around? That's how they normally measure.Either way, my son was born with a 14" head and I had him naturally just fine with very minimal tearing. He was almost 6 weeks early and only 6 lbs, so that was quite a noggin on him! DH and I both have huge heads, so we knew he would too. Everyone is different and every birth is different, so dont feel like you need to jump to a c section right away. You will just have to play it by ear! Good luck!nbsp;


    ITA with this. My little guy's head was measured in the 98th percentile after he was born!! H and I both had big heads as babies, so I wasn't too surprised. I delivered him vaginally with a 2nd degree tear, so I definitely wouldn't jump to an elective csection. Sorry to hear that your OB sucks...honestly is there a reason you can't switch practices? I wouldn't like to go to my appointments feeling like I'm annoying my doctor or being rushed. It's definitely true that the nurses run the show when you're in labor, but feeling comfortable with your care provider is very important.

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    I'm scared of having a big baby, too. My mom pushed 5 of us out no problem, I was 5lb2oz and my brother was the biggest at 7lb14oz. My FI on the other hand, was around 10lbs, and so was his brother. His daughter was also very big, around 9lbs. My daughter was born by emergency c-section and was only 5lb9oz. I don't know about head sizes, though. I already feel humongous :(
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    I would let your doctor know about your concerns, but I would not automatically schedule a C-section without medical necessity. You just have no way of knowing what size your baby's head will be or what is going to happen. Delivering vaginally is much less risky and is preferable if possible. Worst case scenario, maybe you'll have to have a C-section at the last minute, but that happens all the time and your doctors will be fine if it happens to you.
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    I would let your doctor know about your concerns, but I would not automatically schedule a C-section without medical necessity. You just have no way of knowing what size your baby's head will be or what is going to happen. Delivering vaginally is much less risky and is preferable if possible. Worst case scenario, maybe you'll have to have a C-section at the last minute, but that happens all the time and your doctors will be fine if it happens to you.

    Oh, I also forgot to say that regardless of your situation, I would definitely read up on C-sections before the big day. It happens fairly often that women have to have a C-section at the last minute, and it's best to be informed going into that situation. I think it makes it less scary. Every mom should recognize the fact that she MIGHT have to have a C-section and should be prepared for that option just in case.

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