Oh goodness. So DH and I are preggers with our first. One of our favorite things to plan together has been potential names. We came up with SEVERAL boy names we both love and finally picked one. Everything is great. Eventually (b/c I REALLY want a boy) we came around to a girl name: Pyper Gail. We love the name and the mn is my Grandma's.
However, Christmas Eve we found out that my mom's cousin just adopted a little girl (it was a surprise) and named her Piper. So in MY mind, that kinda takes Pyper out of the running. Not because "someone else, somewhere, has the name", but because I now have a cousin with that name.
DH freaked out. He said I was "taking away his daughter" that he had formed in him head when I vetoed the name. I'm only 6 weeks along!! I did NOT understand where he was coming from.
We still haven't fixed/talked about this little problem - has anyone else had this issue with names in the past??
Re: Hubby had a breakdown.
Ok, I have two thoughts on this.
1) I think DH is over-reacting like crazy. I cannot imagine, at 6 weeks, that he could have become that attached to the name that it's devastating to potentially change it.
2) I think it would be ok to still use that name. How often do you see that part of the family? If rarely, I don't think it matters if the name is the same.
Good luck!
Yea, I told him he was WAY over reacting and that we weren't going to talk baby names anymore until the end of my second trimester.
And we don't see them SUPER often, I don't know why, but it just bothers me to use a name that someone in my (living) family already has. Especially since they'll be the same age, and possibly in the same school.
The name, we'll figure out, but his reaction was just so surprising to me! I don't know where it came from!!
This 100%.
Plus, I really hate it when people say their DH is pregnant too. He's not.
This, exactly. I hate the Random Y phenomenon.
Actually, yes we would. "Y"'s are kind of a family thing, we all have 'Y''s in our name going back to my great-great-grandparents.
I have to agree!
You may possibly meet/hear another baby Piper before your baby comes. That name is on the rise. If you love it, use it. It's a really cute name. Unless it was my best friend or close family member, I would still use it; however, your DH is majorly overreacting. GL!
For Peyte's sake...
This!
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Your family has a history of misspelling names or your family has a history of legit Y names, like Yvonne or Evelyn?
This. Even though it's early to freak about names, he might be having a hard time adjusting to change.
THANK YOU.
I don't see how that's relevant. We're going to use a "Y" no matter if it's a "legit" name or a name that I like. - I don't even know how this post became about the stupid "Y".
I will spell it however I want, thank you very much.
LOL! Poor kid!
Wow. That's a little harsh. You don't even know him. And he may not be pregnant, but he his preparing for his first child, so I feel he's allowed his amount of crazy as well. - This was really just a horrible thing to say/post in general. Very rude.
Well, here's my two cents...I say spell her name the way you want (as you can see, I like non-traditional spellings using "y"
) And, if by chance there is another Pyper, Piper, etc. in her class she doesn't have to be Piper 1 or Piper 2. She can be Pyper with a Y!
Second, my DH is VERY territorial about names. He picked the name of all three of my girls and even though I tried VERY hard to come up with different ones throughout each pregnancy he always vetoed it. Thank goodness I love their names! He had this one named (if it's a girl) before we were even pregnant again. And yes, I'm still trying to get him to consider alternatives (so stay tuned). So, I get where he is coming from because I have one of those DH's too!
And as far as your MOM's cousin naming her child that name, I say so what. Especially if you don't see them often and you love the name, go for it.
Happy pregnancy to you!
Omg you guys are being WAY bratty about the Y thing. Leave it alone!!!!! It's her baby she can use it if she wants. Jeeeeez. People telling her to 'spell it right'....wow.
Anyway!! I think you did right by saying you didn't want to talk about names until the second trimester. Chances are that before the end of that time frame he will relax a little and realize it's not that terrible and that your baby is still your baby.
Plus! there's always a chance you guys will find out that it's a boy at 5 months and it will completely become a moot point.
Good luck!