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Would this bother you? NN issue
So I had my baby about 2.5 months ago. His full name is Joseph Scott LN. Everyone calls him Joey. He has always been Joey, even since before he was born, and if the sex prediction had been wrong (if we had had a girl), I think I would have still wanted to call her Joey, just because that's what the baby was to me when I was pregnant.
I have never called him Joseph. After I told his aunt (my SIL) his name before we had him, and that we would call him Joey, she sort of flipped out saying that there was a weird kid she used to know that went by Joey, and that we "had" to call him Joseph.
She now calls Joey by his real name Joseph. I think it may be just to spite me or something because the first few times she has called him that, there was an odd tone in her voice (like a rebellious one), and thus so far. It's a bit annoying to me, just because we specifically told her what we were going to call him, and we call him Joey in front of her all the time.
It's not that big of a deal except that she's got a nasty tone in her voice when she calls him Joseph. If she wasn't so snarky about it, I'd have no problem.
Although, I think it may nip itself in the bud when she calls him Joseph one day in a few years, and he snaps back "my name is Joey!"
But would it bother you though?
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Re: Would this bother you? NN issue
Personally, no b/c things that are that obvious are funny to me...but I can see how that would be annoying. She is calling him by his full name so to me it's ok, but since she's the only one doing it, it makes her look out of the loop and not as close to him.
In a few years your son probably won't even acknowledge her when she calls him that since no one does...so she'll probably be forced to convert.
Good luck - people suck!
I think its really immature of her to do that. And I think she is just doing it to prove a point and get under your skin... which like I said is annoying.
She'll get over. No one else will call him Joseph and she will tire of trying to push her agenda.
Don't let her see that it bugs you and she will stop.
DS's name is Michael and we call him Mickey. I hated his "official" name and told everyone to call him Mickey, but some, especially my father still called him Michael. It's annoying, but that is his name so I can't say anything. If I didn't want people to use his name, I shouldn't have agreed with DH to use it. At this point, the name has grown on me. He is also really only called Michael at preschool since he tends not to listen when they say Mickey. I've started calling him by his full name too.
It stinks that your aunt is doing it to spite you, but I say suck it up. It's usually the older people who insists on full names, and you never know what the future holds. Your DS may actually prefer Joseph over Joey.
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Would it bother me now? No. Did it when I was in your shoes and DS was about the same age? Yes. We picked out the name Theodore nn Teddy when we first started dating and it took 6 years to have him but as soon as the ultrasound tech said "boy" he was Teddy to us and everyone else. SIL prefers Theo for some reason, nothing that's even been explained to me so I'm guessing there's no real reason. We don't see her very often so I just held my tongue. She will try to call him Theo now and he has no idea who she is talking to. He only responds to Teddy, slowly learning Theodore when he's really gotten into something.
If she isn't going to be around him that much, I'd just let hit pass. And if she's not then just be honest and say "We really prefer Joey and it feels disrespectful to us that you want to disregard our feelings on our child's name."
well, since his name IS joseph it wouldnt bother me at all. i would have just named him joey if that is what i wanted everyone to call him. if she was calling him steve then yes id be mad.
It might bother me a little, but I would probably roll my eyes inwardly and look past it and eventually she'll probably get tired of her little game since she's not getting a reaction.
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It annoyed me at first, but now, when he doesn't respond, i feel like he's putting them in their place without me looking like a b!tch and calling them out on it.
And who knows, maybe as he gets older he will want to be called DJ, and maybe your son will insist you call him Joseph.
Just to clarify, it's my SIL who is my DH's twin sister (they're 24). But yeah, I do suck it up and I don't say anything, it just bugs me that she does it to bug me on purpose, not that I let her see that lol. And I do like the name Joseph (or I wouldn't have picked it) so it wouldn't bother me at all if he went by that instead
You named him Joseph, so I don't understand why it bothers you that she calls him the name you gave him. If you wanted a Joey, you could've named him that.
Like pps have said, if his name was Joey and she called him Joseph, then I could understand how that would be bothersome.
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Your SIL is kind of being weird, but it is his name. I've been called by a nickname for my longer name my whole life. It's not like I didn't realize I had the longer name, I just wasn't called by it. He can make the decision when he gets older if that's what he wants to go by.
It would bug me a little, because it sounds like she's doing it to bother you. That's weird.
It bugs me when it's the other way around. If you wanted him to be Joseph and they called him Joey. My DD is Kinsley and people call her Kins and I HATE it. That said, just ignore her and eventually she will call DS Joey!
But for the fact that it does bother you, I'd bet you that there is some hint of it. Maybe there isn't, but yet.... even if it's you calling him Joey right after she calls him Joseph - she'll take that as it's bugging you.
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I'm pretty sure this is what I really feel. I really do like the name Joseph (I'm the one who pushed it; it's from my side of the family), but it just sounds very grown up for a little baby...