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argh, MIL vent

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We repeatedly ask MIL not to post our pics on Facebook. MIL uses ZERO privacy settings, so anyone in the world can see her pics.. sigh.

DH's ex is psycho and wants to snoop our life all the time. We had some serious issues in the past and want to keep away from drama.

MIL keeps posting pics of us even though we asked her to remove our wedding pics. Now she is posting LO's pics that I e-mail to family every week.

DH asked her AGAIN to remove the pictures. GRRRRRRRR

I want to keep her posted on LO's events, but she does not get it!

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  • AliciaS1411AliciaS1411 member
    Tell her if she doesnt listen and remove them that you'll have to contact FB and have then remove them. That was the only thing that got the message across to my MIL. Now she always asks if she can post something, which I consider a HUGE victory considering all the troubles my MIL and I have had. I let her post something every once in a while because she just wants to brag about her grandson, which I get. But I still have to approve everything before it goes up.
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  • acbfreireacbfreire member
    She removes when we ask her, but then posts other pictures. She could post them if she changed her privacy settings. So frustrating!
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  • mylittlesunshinemylittlesunshine member
    I would just tell MIL that she won't be getting that weekly email you send. Yeah, it stinks that she isn't getting updates, but problem solved. No email to MIL, no picture/s to post.
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  • AliciaS1411AliciaS1411 member
    Oh maybe she just need help figure out how to set her privacy settings. The new settings are extremely confusing. You could just talk with her and tell her you'd be more comfortable if she'd let you set up her privacy settings for her.
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  • drbethcdrbethc member

    imageAliciaS1411:
    Oh maybe she just need help figure out how to set her privacy settings. The new settings are extremely confusing. You could just talk with her and tell her you'd be more comfortable if she'd let you set up her privacy settings for her.

     

    This is what I was thinking...Maybe, she doesn't know how to use privacy settings?  

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  • Samiantha101Samiantha101 member
    Is your husband's ex a threat to your daughter, where you have to hide how she resembles?

    Honestly, I think people biotch to biotch about their MILs around here to a severe degree.
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  • AliciaS1411AliciaS1411 member
    imageSamiantha101:
    Is your husband's ex a threat to your daughter, where you have to hide how she resembles?

    Honestly, I think people biotch to biotch about their MILs around here to a severe degree.


    Not everyone is lucky enough to have an awesome MIL. I love mine but we've absolutely had some major issues. Sometimes you just need a place to vent about it because venting about it to your H could make the situation more tense because it's putting him in the middle ya know?
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    imageSamiantha101:
    Is your husband's ex a threat to your daughter, where you have to hide how she resembles? Honestly, I think people biotch to biotch about their MILs around here to a severe degree.

    yes, actually she is mentally ill and tried to attack me in the past... and MIL knows about it.

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  • acbfreireacbfreire member

    imageAliciaS1411:
    Sometimes you just need a place to vent about it because venting about it to your H could make the situation more tense because it's putting him in the middle ya know?

    Thanks, Alicia!

    This is the whole point! If someone doesn't want to read a vent, then don't - but don't assume it's unreasonable.

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  • drbethcdrbethc member
    imageacbfreire:

    imageAliciaS1411:
    Sometimes you just need a place to vent about it because venting about it to your H could make the situation more tense because it's putting him in the middle ya know?

    Thanks, Alicia!

    This is the whole point! If someone doesn't want to read a vent, then don't - but don't assume it's unreasonable.

    couldn't agree more! 

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  • Samiantha101Samiantha101 member
    I get venting. I'm glad we have FFFC and what not. I guess the mil vents are a little bit on the overload on this board about the littlest of problems.
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    sigh.... merry Christmas!
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  • AliciaS1411AliciaS1411 member
    imageacbfreire:
    sigh.... merry Christmas!

    lol! Merry Christmas. =)
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  • Starbear06Starbear06 member
    Haha. I def understand the need for a MIL vent once in awhile!! Especially to a group of mommies who understand how each other feels!!
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  • GeekFantasyGeekFantasy member

    MIL vents are one thing, this is an issue of safety and protecting your family.  That's not unreasonable in my eyes.

    Is there anyone that can go and log into her account and fix her settings?  Or maybe she can give you her password and you can fix them?  Sounds like getting those settings fixed would be the easiest route, though it's irritating when she doesn't just ask or listen when you tell her not to post pictures :P When DD was born I stopped just short of a signed affidavit promising that MIL wouldn't post about the birth before I had a chance to.  And this is an issue of your/your family's safety so it's completely understandable.  Hopefully it gets figured out! 

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