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5 years apart...2 showers???
Hi! This is my first post and I have a question I figured I could possibly get answered. PLEASE dont think I am rude or flame me. So anyway...here goes!
I had my son 5 years ago. I married my hubby and we were both told neither of us could have more kids due to me having a bad labor with my son and my hubby being infertile after being tested multiple times. (He is not my sons father.) So naturally I got rid of EVERYTHING for a baby. But suprise suprise! I am expecting! Would it be tacky to have another shower? I know alot of people look down on second showers but this is 5 years later. Also, I dont want people to think I just want gifts. I dont. I just feel like this baby should also be celebrated, after thinking this would never happen again! How could I go about having something? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks all!! 
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Re: 5 years apart...2 showers???
A shower is a gift given by someone else? Has someone offered?
Also, wanting to celebrate every baby is a tired excuse for having a shower. A shower is to celebrate a NEW mom with gifts. If you truly don't want gifts (doubtful) and want to actually celebrate your baby then have a meet the baby party.
In this circumstance, I can understand why you want a second shower, and wouldnt side-eye it, BUT...
Please don't throw your own shower, it's tacky and gift grabby. Has anyone offered to throw a shower for you? The sole purpose of a shower is to welcome mom to motherhood by showering her with gifts.
If it's truly just about celebrating the baby, host a non-gift-giving event like a meet the baby party after LO arrives. Don't mention gifts or registries in any way.
Of course your baby will be celebrated! But a shower isn't the way to go for a second-time Mom - the shower celebrates a woman becoming a mother, and that only happens once.
You can have a Meet The Baby party, a religious event (baptism, bris, etc.), and so on. But if someone offers to host a shower, gracefully decline.
Yup, exactly this.
I completely agree with this as well. You never plan your own shower. I'm kind of in a similar situation. DD will be almost four by the time DD#2 comes. We had been told after several losses that we couldn't get pregnant again, so I got rid of everything. For us, it's like starting all over again. I have turned down shower offers because I don't feel comfortable having another shower - my family and friends were very generous with DD#1 and I don't feel they should have to spend more money because we chose to get rid of everything. It's our responsibility to provide for the baby - no one else's. And showers are for the mothers, not for the babies that aren't even there for the event. If you're really just about celebrating the baby, then have a meet the baby after he/she is born.
Throwing your own baby shower just to get stuff is messed up. If you truly want to celebrate your baby do it when they are actually present.
If you want to celebrate this pregnancy then do so with your immediate family at a meal that you host. I wouldn't call it a shower. Don't register. People will bring gifts if they want.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
Ding ding ding!
This the winner of 2012's Best-Planned MUD! Hah. I mean, it's not totally unrealistic, but the subjects are guaranteed to evoke a response: "second showers", "not about the gifts but I do need everything", "hosting it myself", and more. It is missing "different gender" and "diaper raffle / book-as-card" but that only adds to the realism. The only way it could truly be better is if the OP had used an older AE (as in one with other posts to its name, making it harder to identify as MUD).
But still, bravo, OP! If you want it to get really fun, please do come back and act sanctimonious.
Short work week plus potentially-fun-MUD-drama = one happy pregnant lady here. Hah.
Ditto.
To the original poster (if this isn't a fake) I would say what everybody else already has. Don't throw your own shower. It's really is tacky. Do a Meet the Baby instead.
I get that it's been a while since the first baby, but still. I just had a friend who found out she was pregnant the same time I did. Except she found out when she was 7 months pregnant instead of just a couple weeks.... and by the time DS#2 arrived, her first child was just turning 13. Surprise!!! She didn't want a baby shower, but a surprise shower was thrown for her and she didn't have any say in the matter and she was really embarrassed about it all.
To GGAtlanta: what is a "diaper raffle / book-as-card" ?? Never heard of that.
Add me to the list that agrees with this.
Having a second shower is soooo tacky...NOT! Celebrate with the ones you love and want to support you. This is HIS first baby and a miracle at that! If anyone gives you any grief about that-they simply don't have to attend.
Never feel ashamed for wanting to celebrate such an occasion as this.