Baby Shower Dates?

JenHodges · December 2012

So... at the big family Christmas dinner last night I had a lot of cousins and aunts asking when and where my baby shower is being held. I was embarrassed to admit I have yet to hear of any details. From what I understand, it is poor etiquette to plan your own baby shower...but what if those you thought would have taken the reigns have yet to start?

In addition, I have friends flying in for the shower and need to make plans and flights. Am i jumping the gun?? Does anyone already have a date planned?

Cailin+Deas+Rua · December 2012

My mom is planning mine for the end of Feb. but since my sister is due a month and a half after me we might make it earlier to prevent our family members from being "baby showered out".

skoogirl · December 2012

Unfortunately, if no one has offered to throw you a shower, you shouldn't throw your own. I might respond to your friends that ask about it with a simple, "As far as I know no one has offered to throw a shower."

rayofsunshine99 · December 2012

JenHodges:
So... at the big family Christmas dinner last night I had a lot of cousins and aunts asking when and where my baby shower is being held. I was embarrassed to admit I have yet to hear of any details. From what I understand, it is poor etiquette to plan your own baby shower...but what if those you thought would have taken the reigns have yet to start?
In addition, I have friends flying in for the shower and need to make plans and flights. Am i jumping the gun?? Does anyone already have a date planned?

Regarding your first Q - when people ask about your shower simply state the truth - that no one has mentioned anything about throwing you one yet so you aren't sure. Perfect opportunity for a family member to offer or start thinking/talking about planning one.

Regarding Q #2, are you sure people are planning on flying in for it? Have they mentioned that they are flying in and if so, do they know that there is no date/no one has mentioned hosting yet? Or are you just hoping/assuming they will fly in for your baby shower? IMO, if I was close enough to someone to fly in for their shower, I would be close enough to them to offer to throw it as well, esp if I knew no one else had stepped up to the plate yet.

And to answer your last question, I don't have a date for mine yet.

JSS1002 · December 2012

Ugh, so sorry. Thankfully my SIL offered yesterday to throw me a shower, but I was kind of having the same problem until she stepped up! My girlfriends from college want to do a small gathering for just the few of us, but I couldn't really ask them to take on the big family deal, so it is great that SIL offered.

We're probably targeting the end of February.

24ladybug · December 2012

One of my friends is throwing mine. Shes been really busy and my weekends are filling up fast. So to jump started planning I picked the date. She agreed on the date and that's as far as I know that it's gone. Try bringing up some dates with the hostest. It's the one thing you get a say in.

RighteousJane · December 2012

I guess it is considered poor etiquette to plan your own but you really want to give people around 6 weeks notice so I would maybe ask someone you're really close with to maybe co-plan one with you so it doesnt seem like you're the only one doing it.

I live in SC but Im from VA so Im having 1 shower in VA on Feb 2nd and 1 in SC on March 2nd. I didnt want to get too close to my due date since you never know when LO will want to make an appearance!

JenHodges · December 2012

My step mother has been adamant about being in charge of the planning and throwing the shower. I have mentioned to her numerous times that others were interested in helping...but she blows me off.

She's an interesting character. I don't feel we are very close, but when it comes to a way she can showcase her 'mom' roll she is offended to be considered anything less than mom. However, things pertaining to my life are far down on the list of importance- falling behind her own children and herself - its been that way my whole life.

Yes, the friends from out of town are asking for dates because they want to book the tickets. They would have gladly thrown the shower ( as well as my sister and other friends) but my step mother wants the control.

Its a pickle. I don't want to seem pushy about getting details, but I need to get these people some answers for planning!

rayofsunshine99 · December 2012

24ladybug:
One of my friends is throwing mine. Shes been really busy and my weekends are filling up fast. So to jump started planning I picked the date. She agreed on the date and that's as far as I know that it's gone. Try bringing up some dates with the hostest. It's the one thing you get a say in.

OP stated that no one has offered to throw one yet... therefor there is no hostess for her to bring up dates with.

ETA I was wrong/misread the post.

sntotolo · December 2012

My shower will be Jan 26th. It's pretty early, but the friend that is hosting it is getting married in April, so we will be busy bees with her bridal shower and bach party after Jan... figured we should do it sooner rather than later...

PSUBecky23 · December 2012

rayofsunshine99:
JenHodges:
So... at the big family Christmas dinner last night I had a lot of cousins and aunts asking when and where my baby shower is being held. I was embarrassed to admit I have yet to hear of any details. From what I understand, it is poor etiquette to plan your own baby shower...but what if those you thought would have taken the reigns have yet to start?
In addition, I have friends flying in for the shower and need to make plans and flights. Am i jumping the gun?? Does anyone already have a date planned?
Regarding your first Q - when people ask about your shower simply state the truth - that no one has mentioned anything about throwing you one yet so you aren't sure. Perfect opportunity for a family member to offer or start thinking/talking about planning one.
Regarding Q #2, are you sure people are planning on flying in for it? Have they mentioned that they are flying in and if so, do they know that there is no date/no one has mentioned hosting yet? Or are you just hoping/assuming they will fly in for your baby shower? IMO, if I was close enough to someone to fly in for their shower, I would be close enough to them to offer to throw it as well, esp if I knew no one else had stepped up to the plate yet.
And to answer your last question, I don't have a date for mine yet.

All of this.

Also, no one has offered to throw one for me yet.

Keep in mind that maybe friends and family were trying to get through the holidays prior to planning/setting a date for your shower.

rayofsunshine99 · December 2012

JenHodges:
My step mother has been adamant about being in charge of the planning and throwing the shower. I have mentioned to her numerous times that others were interested in helping...but she blows me off.
She's an interesting character. I don't feel we are very close, but when it comes to a way she can showcase her 'mom' roll she is offended to be considered anything less than mom. However, things pertaining to my life are far down on the list of importance- falling behind her own children and herself - its been that way my whole life.
Yes, the friends from out of town are asking for dates because they want to book the tickets. They would have gladly thrown the shower ( as well as my sister and other friends) but my step mother wants the control.
Its a pickle. I don't want to seem pushy about getting details, but I need to get these people some answers for planning!

Oh I didn't realize someone/your SM had offered to throw it. So if that's the case, can you just tell her "Hey some friends are asking about shower dates so they can get flights in... do you think we can put something on the calendar/find a day that works?"

JenHodges · December 2012

24ladybug:
One of my friends is throwing mine. Shes been really busy and my weekends are filling up fast. So to jump started planning I picked the date. She agreed on the date and that's as far as I know that it's gone. Try bringing up some dates with the hostest. It's the one thing you get a say in.

I'll try this Thanks!

drtarajp · December 2012

My date has been planned since November. My hostesses are throwing it on Feb 9th.

The only reason we picked a date so early on, is that when we were all together for another friends baby shower, we started to talk about when mine would be held. We all have a mutual friends in common who are getting married in Feb and March. between the bachelorette parties, bridal showers, and weddings, Feb 9th was the only date that really worked out for everyone- so we sealed that date!

Hopefully your friends/family will get the hint that someone needs to take the reigns and start planning! Most people just assume someone else is doing it!

JenHodges · December 2012

drtarajp:
My date has been planned since November. My hostesses are throwing it on Feb 9th.
The only reason we picked a date so early on, is that when we were all together for another friends baby shower, we started to talk about when mine would be held. We all have a mutual friends in common who are getting married in Feb and March. between the bachelorette parties, bridal showers, and weddings, Feb 9th was the only date that really worked out for everyone- so we sealed that date!
Hopefully your friends/family will get the hint that someone needs to take the reigns and start planning! Most people just assume someone else is doing it!

This! I have friends all over the country- most I know wont be coming that are far- but some that are so excited and want to book tickets and hotel rooms. Others live within driving distance (tristate area) and are coming. I just know when we try to plan something together- not to mention adding the cousins and aunts ( dad is 1 of 10 siblings so there are a lot of cousins and aunts!) - its almost as if someone has something every weekend booked out months in advance.

Ill try mentioning a date in mid-late February to my step mom to see if we cant get a date in stone

tondraluv · December 2012

My SIL & MIL have planned it for February 23rd (i'm due April 15th). They already have the place reserved, caterers reserved, & are ordering the invitations this week. I felt like it was kind of soon to be planning all of this but this is the first baby in the family so everyone is excited.

AMJ6511 · December 2012

My cousin asked when mine is, but no one has offered me one yet. I wouldn't worry about anything because you aren't supposed to be planning things anyway.

JanessLynn · December 2012

My shower is booked for March 3 and I'm due April 21st.

MsAmeera25 · December 2012

My shower is Jan 19th, the venue is booked and invites have been sent. I am due April 2nd and my C section is schd for March 12th

HarleyQuinn7161 · December 2012

Mine is the beginning of Feb. and I am due middle of April. My SIL is due at the end of Feb. so I wanted to try to do it before. I didn't want to to it too close to my due date either, because I wanted time to get settled and get stuff set up before baby girl comes. I know being just over a month away they are getting the invites out now. I don't know any details other than the date and time. I don't even know where they are doing it yet.

jln14 · December 2012

I have one jan 5 at my ILs when we go back 8 hrs to celebrate holidays as we won't make the trip again before lo is born. But I will have another one mar 2nd which seems to be a popular date ;

sbonnie · December 2012

Feb 17th! My BFF is pregnant too (due Mar 1) so she's on the ball! Invites are going out today (they wanted to wait til after x-mas).

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