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Gipper0809 · December 2012

Ok, so little dude #2 sleeps beautifully if he's on his stomach. So far we've only been allowing this during the day when we're awake and he's right in the room with us. Problem is at night, he refuses to sleep any other way unless it's on us. I'm not getting sleep, he's not sleeping restfully and we kind of have to figure this out because DH goes back to work on Wednesday and I'll be on my own.

Anyone else ever let their LO sleep on their stomach at night? DH is way against it but we don't know what else to try. Ideas?

Nita2603 · December 2012

We tried having Aidan sleep on his tummy but it freaked me out enough that I did not sleep because I kept checking on him and stuff. Then, truth be told, the colic hit and we spent the next 10 weeks with him sleeping on one of us on the couch.
All this to say, I would give it a try probably.

kagl08 · December 2012

My kids were tummy sleepers. At 2 months old we allowed it with DD, after getting the angel care monitor.

With DS he was a belly sleeper since birth. The NICU put him on him belly and he refused to sleep any other way. He slept on his belly since 11 days old when he came home.

It worked for us! My kids both still sleep on their bellies. I say do what works for you. Do you have an angel care monitor? That might put your DH at ease. Good luck and I hope DS2 starts sleeping for you at night!

dlast09 · December 2012

I let S sleep on his tummy once he started getting there on his own. I have so many friends that swear that the only way the slept through the night was to put their newborn on their tummy. I also say do what works for you. I would maybe not have anything in his bed at all, just because it would freak me out.

Sammy-Mae · December 2012

When we were in the hospital DD would only sleep fully stretched out, not swaddled on me. I didn't sleep for 3 days. Obviously this wasn't a sustainable thing but she was 23.5 inches long and didn't really fit in the bassinet. SO they gave me a list of things to try when we got home to get her sleeping in a crib and not on me. I can only remember a few.

1. Try elevating the crib/bassinet/whatever. Make sure you elevate the whole unit and not the mattress.

2. Sleep in a bouncy seat in the crib

3. Swaddle and then prop slightly on their side with a rolled recieving blanket and then slowly remove the blanket when the baby is asleep.

With DD we had to do a combination of 1&2 minus the swaddle.

Deez10 · December 2012

DS has been a tummy sleeper since he first started sleeping in his crib. I was, naturally, very scared of this at first but got over it when I realized there was nothing to be done about it. He'd flip over to his belly first chance he got and if you flipped him to his back - he'd wake up and scream.

I don't think I'm much of a help with my response - just wanted to let you know I've been there and after a few nights, I was much more comfortable. I'm a tummy sleeper and can't imagine sleeping any other way - seems DS is the same as his momma.

GL.

Edited to add: we also have the Angelcare monitor and love it! Rarely have false alarms - just adjust the sensitivity.

Chunstad · December 2012

Sammy-Mae:
When we were in the hospital DD would only sleep fully stretched out, not swaddled on me. I didn't sleep for 3 days. Obviously this wasn't a sustainable thing but she was 23.5 inches long and didn't really fit in the bassinet. SO they gave me a list of things to try when we got home to get her sleeping in a crib and not on me. I can only remember a few.
1. Try elevating the crib/bassinet/whatever. Make sure you elevate the whole unit and not the mattress.
2. Sleep in a bouncy seat in the crib
3. Swaddle and then prop slightly on their side with a rolled recieving blanket and then slowly remove the blanket when the baby is asleep.
With DD we had to do a combination of 1&2 minus the swaddle.

C slept like this for the first 4 months of his life. You gotta do what you gotta do. If you are going the tummy route, invest the $ in an angel care monitor. My friends totally recommended it for their peace of mind.

Gipper0809 · December 2012

I need to keep trying the swaddle because his little arms flail and he wakes himself up. I have yet to have a baby that is willing to just sleep on their back in their crib/bassinet from the beginning. Rea needed the swaddle and slept in her carseat until 6 months. Linc swaddled until 8 months and slept in the RnP for first 4 months (which we sold!).

I'm all for the tummy sleeping but I cannot for the life of me convince DH. I'll need to check out the Angel Care monitors. Don't they give false alarms all the time?

Sigh.

Chunstad · December 2012

The only false alarm that my friend had was when the kid rolled off the monitor. Your little one wouldn't be doing that.

kagl08 · December 2012

Chunstad:
The only false alarm that my friend had was when the kid rolled off the monitor. Your little one wouldn't be doing that.

We had a few false alarms, but that was because we didn't have the selectivity right. We loved our angel care! Used it for both kids until they were both around 1 yr old.

BeesMomma00 · December 2012

We used the rock n play... only thing that worked. Swaddled and strapped in. For 6 months.

wilsontl19191 · December 2012

BeesMomma00:
We used the rock n play... only thing that worked.nbsp; Swaddled and strapped in.nbsp; For 6 months.

All of this!!

Ginny0211 · December 2012

Gipper0809:
I need to keep trying the swaddle because his little arms flail and he wakes himself up. I have yet to have a baby that is willing to just sleep on their back in their crib/bassinet from the beginning. Rea needed the swaddle and slept in her carseat until 6 months. Linc swaddled until 8 months and slept in the RnP for first 4 months (which we sold!).

I'm all for the tummy sleeping but I cannot for the life of me convince DH. I'll need to check out the Angel Care monitors. Don't they give false alarms all the time?

Sigh.

I absolutely love our Angel Care monitor. It was the only way I got any rest. I was terrified of SIDS and LO had reflux and we woke up hearing her making choking noises from her spit up a few times. I was so scared that she was going to choke on her spit up. The alarm gave me much needed peace of mind.

And it was great to have once she started rolling over and sleeping on her tummy.

We used it until LO started moving around too much in her crib and would get off of the sensor mat (7-8 months. Can't remember exactly).

We maybe had one or two false alarm and I think that was just because she rolled off it too much. You can adjust the sensitivity if false alarms are an issue.

We have the one with the video screen. Not the best video screen. If I was to do it over again I would get just the sensor monitor and get a separate video monitor. It's good enough though. We still use the video monitor.

nittanyllama · December 2012

We only ever had once false alarm with the Angel Care. We love it and still use it. We did the Rock N Play in the beginning with G, but I can understand where you're coming from. I would probably consider the tummy sleeping with the Angel Care if I were you. GL!

CA2006 · December 2012

My response will be flameworthy, I'm sure. I say do what is right for you and what you feel comfortable with. The ONLY way DD woudl sleep longer than 30 min ofr the first 12 weeks of her life was ON one of us (DH or me). I slept in the center of our bed, propped up with pillows with DD sleeping on my chest pretty much every night after her first stretch of sleep. I was very aware of her at all times and we never had any issues. It was instinctual for us and we removed all blankets and fluffy pillows form the area. DH was never allowed to hold her at night (b/c he sleeps too soundly). I know that most people wouldn't do this or be ok with it and I don't expect them to. But my point is that it felt more comfortable than tummy sleeping in a bassinet to us. She had stomach issues that made hre grunt, groan, flail and eventually scream on her back or propped up (like in the RnP). So in order for her to get rest and for us to, this is what we did. And at 3 months, she grew out of it and moved to her crip. She still sleeps on her tummy.

lkm2006 · December 2012

A started tummy sleeping at 2 weeks. It was the only way he would sleep, on his tummy or on one of us.

There is no way I could have survived without the angel care monitor. A girl on Facebook posted about two weeks ago that her 3 month old stopped breathing in the middle of the night and he was unresponsive for several minutes. She said they would have never known if they didn't have a monitor.

Obviously, it's one of my must haves in this house so I love it!

ETA: we rarely had false alarms but there are different senstivity levels you have to play around with.

Elsa1984 · December 2012

We had this problem with Gator for the first five weeks she would scream bloody murder and would only sleep on SO's chest. Finally at 6 weeks we figured out she was a stomach sleeper. The only way we could get her to sleep at night was to swaddle and put in a side sleep positioner. After that, she was a perfect sleeper! Apparent side sleeping was a good compromise for her, since I would not let her sleep on her tummy.

Elsa1984 · December 2012

Gipper0809:
I need to keep trying the swaddle because his little arms flail and he wakes himself up.nbsp; I have yet to have a baby that is willing to just sleep on their back in their crib/bassinet from the beginning.nbsp; Rea needed the swaddle and slept in her carseat until 6 months.nbsp; Linc swaddled until 8 months and slept in the RnP fornbsp; first 4 months which we sold!.nbsp;
I'm all for the tummy sleeping but I cannot for the life of me convince DH.nbsp; I'll need to check out the Angel Care monitors.nbsp; Don't they give false alarms all the time?nbsp;
Sigh.

We loved ours and used it until she was 11mo when she kept going in the far corner of her bed and it couldn't pick up her movement. I have seen many times on the board someone saying "my Ped said the monitor would just stress me out" or "it's not going to prevent SIDS"......one, every one of my family members has used the monitor and was less stressed having it on. And two, ummm....duh it is not going to prevent SIDS but it will give you time to react. You may be able to save the baby, you may not. But in the end, would you rather say "the alarm went off, I ran in there and did CPR and everything I could..." Or would you be saying "I thought he was sleeping in late, then I went and checked on him and he was cold and dead!" As I have mentioned before on this board, one of my nanny kids stopped breathing while I was working, and his monitor went off. Had it been a regular monitor, I wouldn't have known he stopped breathing. But the alarm went off and I ran upstairs and across the house to get him. He started breathing when I picked him up, but who knows what would have happened had I not known and raced up there. Nothing is scarier than seeing a blue lipped five month old.

If you do get one, just make sure the sensitivity settings are correct and you don't have anything that causes movement or vibration on or around the crib or the monitor will think its your baby moving.

There is also a thing called a Snuza you can get that is cheaper and clips on the baby's diaper and will sound an alarm if he stops breathing.

Gipper0809 · December 2012

Thanks for the reassurance, ladies. I'm thinking we need to get the monitor and just go with what works. You'd think by #3, I'd have figured this stuff out!

kujayhawkgirl · December 2012

When Abby was in the NICU at 9 days old and the first thing they told us was to lay her on her side or her tummy to sleep to help her breath, that's all we did. We did swaddle her tight, place her on her side, and make little barriers on each side of her with recieving blankets and then a blanket over those (under her) so that they (recieving blankets) wouldn't be able to just roll around. After about 2 months of that, and two more hospital stays where she slept on her tummy and was fine, was just let her sleep on her tummy. To this day, the first thing Abby does when we lay her down is roll to her tummy.

I guess in my mind when the first thing doctors tell me is "oh, just lay her on her tummy to breathe better," I don't question that and I just do it, no big deal. If they don't have any reservations about that, then neither do I, especially if it helps my child breathe.

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