How far apart do you want your children? With my new intro

ChristyML · December 2012

If you are planning on having more than one child, how far apart would you like them to be spaced?

I tried to make it a poll, but for some reason it wouldn't let me...

Also, I have posted an intro here before, but it's been a while so...

I'm Christy. I'm 23 and I have a 2 month old little boy. I had gestational diabetes during my pregnancy, so now I am waiting for about one more month to be tested for Type II diabetes. I have babies on the brain already, but I would like my children to be between one and three years apart, so no TTC for me yet,and if I test positive for Type II, that puts a damper on TTC for a longer while.

kiki1978 · December 2012

We would like our kids to be about 2 years apart.

Ardmhs83 · December 2012

My DS is 28 months and we won't be trying until a few months before he is 4, so he will be close to 5 when LO will be born. I'd like them a little closer, but I want to be med free and I am still recovering from really bad PPD/PPA. We also cannot pay for 2 in day care. DS will be heading to school at 5...so he will be free. LO 2 will be with me for a while. Babies are on my brain all the time though... I have such a long wait!!!

babydoll22308 · December 2012

I would like mychildren to be 2 and a half to 3 years apart. right after labor with DD i was on an adrenaline high and couldnt wait to have another one, but that quickly passed. It wasnt until recently that i really wanted another one. We actually officially start TTC after this cycle, DD will be 20 months.

when my niece was born, DD had just turned one. Seeing how she handled it at first made me glad i waited. Gradually DD has softened and become obssessed with her, which greatly has eased my mind about having another.

Kristinmo · December 2012

Our kids are 2.5 years apart and I honestly can't imagine having kids closer together than that. It's so nice for DS to be able to be somewhat independent when DD needs so much help.

There are also medical reasons to consider waiting.

https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/family-planning/MY01691

KenziK · December 2012

We are not sure if we will want to have two children yet, but if we decide to I want to wait until our first is either almost or completely potty trained, so maybe wait around 2.5 years after the first.

gamergirl522 · December 2012

Welcome.

About 2 years apart.

hesakeeper · December 2012

We don't have kids yet, and we're not sure how many we'd like to have just yet (at least 3) but I don't want the oldest to be more than 8 years older than the youngest.

beachcomberbride · December 2012

I wanted my children to all be 2-3 years apart. That didn't work out though. Our first angel baby died 10 years ago, we have a 6 year old, a 4 year old and have been TTC unsuccessfully now, so it's looking like if we do get pregnant this next year, our youngest and middle will be 5 years apart.

chels0120 · December 2012

I always wanted our kids to be 3 years apart. But DS is now 3 1/2 and we are still not pregnant so that want went out the window!

memali26 · December 2012

I guess I'll be the crazy here - my girls are just shy of 19 months apart. Both were planned. We decided we'd rather get through the baby phase, diapers, bottles, sleep deprivation, etc., in a fairly short time period instead of waiting several years in between and starting all over. We don't regret the spacing of these two at all, and if we had to do it over would make the same decision.

However, hypothetical #3 would be 2-2.5 years younger than DD2. We've had some major life changes besides a new baby in the last year or so and haven't decided whether we want a third.

Adam&Eve2 · December 2012

I'm not really sure. I guess I never really thought about it that way, DH and I think about it more from a "when does it feel right" perspective. But I would like them close in age if possible. My mom and her sister are 10 mo 10 days apart and they were in the same grade growing up. I thought that was pretty cool.

But the flip side of that means that my grandmother was pregnant again just over a month after having my mom. So that sucks.

Cindal · December 2012

If we decide to have two or more I'm thinking a span of 3-4 years between each. My thing is I want the first one to be out of diapers before the second one gets here. Right now I'm still concentrating on trying for number 1 though.

kcisthebombdotcom · December 2012

I have kids spaced one year apart (12.5 months part, to be exact). I really have loved everything about that spacing. My second pregnancy was a breeze since I got to rest a lot with an infant that wasn't mobile/napped 3+ times a day. When the baby was born, he was too young to experience jealousy and hasn't ever in nearly 2 years. We have one set of toys out they both play with instead of trying to hide toys with small parts from the younger child. They play together constantly and are attached at the hip.

anssett · December 2012

We're starting TTC this summer so I don't have any babies yet. We want 2 kids pretty close together.

I'm 32 now so we've already talked about trying to have them pretty close together so I'm not very far past 35 when #2 comes. Reality will dictate when I actually get pregnant, and medical concerns or getting pregnant again will play in of course.

In my family we were very spread out (sis is 5.5 years older, brother is 8.5 years younger!) That had some awesome outcomes, but doesn't seem practical for us given how late we're starting.

mkenney12 · December 2012

We just had the TTC talk and we are going to be starting next month. Our son is 8 months. We would like them 2 years apart but we are not sure how long it will take us to concieve. We want 4 and to have them close in age.

ChristyML · December 2012

I never thought about the benefits of having them so close together. My mom adopted (she had endometriosis and tried really hard to get pregnant), and my brother (not biological) and I are 11 months apart. We were best friends growing up.

My husband is the oldest of 7 (and he has a twin sister), and the farthest apart my MIL had her babies I think was a little bit more than 2 years.

I want at least 4 children, but no more than 7, so I'm not sure how to work that all out.

There are a few things that I'd like to have done/accomplished before I have my next baby: I'd like to own a house, I'd like to be healthy and in shape, and I'd also like a new car (our car right now will not fit two babies). I'd also like Joey to be the baby for a while before I'd even be pregnant with LO2.

Thank you ladies for all of your responses! So fun getting to know you all a little better!

ChristyML · December 2012

Kristinmo:
Our kids are 2.5 years apart and I honestly can't imagine having kids closer together than that. It's so nice for DS to be able to be somewhat independent when DD needs so much help.
There are also medical reasons to consider waiting.
https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/family-planning/MY01691

Thank you for the link! It was very interesting and helpful!

WaitingOnTwoPinkLines · December 2012

Ideally, 2-2.5 years apart. I'll be getting a Mirena at my 6w PP visit, & plan on having it taken out when DS is 18m.

ap142193 · December 2012

2 to 3 years

kelle017 · December 2012

I'd like to start trying again when our first is in the 8-12 month range.

huskymomma94 · December 2012

We would like them to be 2-3 years apart.

Nukke · December 2012

DH wants them as close together as possible, but I'd like to aim for about 2 years

VTFutureMrs · December 2012

DS and DD are 19 months apart. We are TTC now for #3 with this being our first month TTC. We wanted them about 2 years apart.

sweetpea2003 · December 2012

My first two are 16 months apart. It has lots of pros and cons, but I am happy with how it turned out.

We are talking about TTC #3 and if it goes well, the baby will likely be 3.5-4 years younger than my DS. This is less than ideal to me (I think 2.5-3 years would be better), but our family needed some time to regroup after my husband's deployment.

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