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devastated!

VeeAmarieVeeAmarie
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First please ignore the happy wedding picture in my signature, I am on bump mobile and can't get rid of it, boo.

I have been with my husband for 10 years, we have been married for 3. We found out we are expecting in June 2013 at the beginning of October. He was excited or so I thought, I was scared but on the whole, excited to start our family.

Well today he tells me that our marriage is over and that things have been bad for a long time. Funny, as that is news to me. He swears there is no one else, and I believe him on that, but I feel so betrayed, we have been together a 3rd of my life. I feel numb, like I lost my best friend, and now I get to go into parenting alone...something I didn't sign up for at all. I wanted to wait to have a baby, but it happened sooner and its a blessing. Now, I'm trying to make sense of the last decade and what went wrong, and figure out my next step.

I don't even think devastated describes where I'm at. It feels like my entire future just flipped on its ear.
I just needed to vent. I have never felt so lonely in my life.
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  • shabamwamshabamwam member

    WHAT AN ASS!

    So sorry to hear this! Just try to be strong and think long term happiness. 

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  • cbt007cbt007 member
    I am in a very similar situation. I am currently 24 weeks pregnant with mine and my husband's second child. One week after finding out I was pregnant, I discovered he had an affair months prior right after I suffered a miscarriage, of all things. We tried to work it out with counseling but he asked for a divorce almost 2 months ago. I recently found out he is in another relationship already that started while we were "working" on our marriage. I've been trying to deal with all of this while raising our two year old. I have had to come to terms with many things, including this pregnancy that I wasn't really ready for but he pressured me into having another child and I wanted to make him happy. I can tell you that it does get better. I just started on Zoloft about 2 weeks ago and I've returned to counseling. Today is the first day that I feel hopeful and now I know my life will be much better without him. You and that baby will be just fine... Even if you don't feel like it right now. I'd suggest counseling because it has truly helped me to come to terms with so many things and is helping me to move on. I am so sorry that you are in this situation.
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  • MamatoA2010MamatoA2010 member
    I'm in the same exact situation only I'm not pregnant, I have a 3 year old DD. My STBXH told me he was unhappy and left me in June 2011 when DD was 17 months old. You can do this! In time it will get easier, trust me. GL to you and keep your chin up!
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  • dancingqueen_october08dancingqueen_october08

    I'm going through a similar situation right now so I feel for you. I am 31 weeks pregnant with our second child and we have a 2 year old DD. H and I had a big blow up about two months ago and he has been fighting for a divorce while I've been fighting for our family. Right now, we are separated, but my H refuses to go to counseling and doesn't seem willing to work on our marriage so I believe we are headed for divorce.

    It's really hard but everyday gets easier. I am just trying to focus on my children and keep myself busy with friends and work as much as I can. I have cried a lot but right now, I'm just letting myself be numb. I think that's okay.

    If you have family and friends nearby, lean on them as much as you can. Ask for help when you need it, even if you're not used to having to ask.

    So sorry you're going through this. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

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