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Petunia844Petunia844 member
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So DH is unhappy at his job, he's been there forever but recently some changes have been made and he's totally unhappy.  There aren't really options he's excited about right where we are though.  So he's thinking of looking at jobs about an hr north of here...in which case we would need to move.  Here's the thing, he doesn't want to buy a house immediately in case he didn't like the new job, so we would have two options, rent and then buy or have him commute until he's sure.  I really hate the idea of moving twice, it's a lot of stress on us and the babes...but I also hate the idea of him getting home crazy late for however many months he wants to test the waters.  I don't mind the thought of moving....it's the trial period that's hard to accept.  Just to be clear, we wouldn't be moving that far,we'd move to a half way point so we'd still be about the same distance from my job and family/friends....just in the other directions so DH would end up about 25-30 min commute like he has now.  Obviously this all depends on him even getting a new job...but he won't try unless we have a plan.  Wwyd??
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  • Junebug060609Junebug060609 member
    I'd do the trial period before a move.

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  • WearingRedWearingRed member
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    I'd do the trial period before a move.
    after the horrible move I just have and moving 3 times in 3 years. I would never move just try something. Figure out where you need to be and then move.

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  • tetiananinatetiananina member
    I say trial period and then move but if he can commute and it's not too bad commute.

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  • IEtoLAIEtoLA member
    I would try it out. For a year I drove from where I am to work out by you and it wasn't that bad.
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    I agree with PP, trial period before the move.  Moving is miserable and moving twice - eeek!

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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member

    We're in the midst of this exact situation. DH had been unhappy at his job for a while and last spring he put his resume online just to see what would happen. He got contacted by a head hunter and with in a week he had an interview and a job offer. It was very quick and an offer that he just couldn't refuse. He started the job in May and has an hour and 15 min commute one way. We didn't want to move right away because at the time I was still pg and if this job, for whatever reason, didn't work out we didn't want to be completely unstable. 

    The new job has been going really well so far. He has a pretty flexible schedule, so what he does, is he leaves our house at 6am, gets to work early between 7:15-7:30am, works straight through lunch and leaves at 3:30pm, gets back into town between 4:45-5:00, and picks up L on his way home. We end up getting home around the same time at 5:30. The mornings are shorter, but we still get the same amount of time at home together in the evenings. 

    There are good things and bad things about the new job. DH has put a lot of miles on our car, but it's a Subaru, so it can take it. Then there's the cost of gas and tolls, since he takes the toll road. He's also become a frequent coustomer of Panera Bread and Tim Hortons for on the go breakfasts (even though I offer to make him something at home!). The drive definitely wears on him sometimes, and he never wants to go for long drives on the weekends now (which I can't really blame him for!) But his salary is a good bit higher than it was, his company benefits cost less for families, and he's much more fulfilled in his job than he was. He tells me all the time about all the new skills he's learning and how he's expanding on the things he already knew. 

    Our current plan is to be moved by this time next year. If we were still renting, I probably would have considered moving sooner. I feel like there's so much less to do when you rent! Since we own, though, we need to fix up our house a bit and sell it before we can move. I get exausted just thinking about it!

    Sorry this got so long!! I just wanted to give you a sence of how we're dealing with a long commute. 

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  • bluebonnetmegbluebonnetmeg member
    My DH has an hour commute as well. It is difficult but doable. I wouldn't think of moving until your DH has a job and it has been going well for a few months. Good luck!
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    An hour commute isn't terrible. I would try that out for a bit before making any drastic changes.
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