Negative opinions about pregnancy?

2plusme · December 2012

Hello all! I am the mother of a lovely 2 year old little girl. My husband and I were so excited to have a baby and our families were too. Now baby number 2 is heavy on my brain. We have been blessed to be financially stable and we have never asked any family member for anything not even to babysit. We are always commended on how well we do with our daughter. But now it seems like everyone have something bad to say about having babies. My husband recently called his mother to tell her I got a promotion. He started the conversation off by saying "Guess what" and she said "Oh God, is she pregnant? " Then I let my daughter call my mom to tell her what she asked Santa for, when my daughter said "A baby referring to a baby doll" my mom said "Hopefully not a real one. " Am I being sensitive or are they negative? I have never discussed having a second child with anyone besides my husband.

bugandbibs · December 2012

I don't know you or your situation well enough to give you any real advice. I will say that the only opinions that matter here are you and your husband's. No one else gets a say in how many children you have. Ignore their comments and do what you want.

nlscroggins · December 2012

you may be being sensitive, but i would say those comments are a little rude. i would be annoyed by them. best thing you can do is ignore it and brush it off, and maybe dont let her in on any plans in the future

victoria+james · December 2012

You are probably being overly sensitive to their comments because you are now thinking about having another one. Not to say their comments are nice, but its like how I notice every single pregnant woman now that I want to be pregnant myself. Only you and your husband know what's best for your family.

JNCPro3130 · December 2012

I think it depends on the family. My mom would say things to be "silly", but not always realizing or understanding why we'd be upset.

What I'm finding is that people are generally insensitive at times. I'm sorry that you are getting negative attitudes!

hesakeeper · December 2012

victoria+james:
You are probably being overly sensitive to their comments because you are now thinking about having another one. Not to say their comments are nice, but its like how I notice every single pregnant woman now that I want to be pregnant myself. Only you and your husband know what's best for your family.

This. I don't think it would bother you as much if you weren't thinking about baby #2 right now.

ChristyML · December 2012

I think that they are being negative and a bit rude. I don't think you are being overly sensitive. I think the next time someone says a comment like that, you should ask "what do you mean by that?" or something to that effect. Then go from there, saying something like "mind your own business" or whatever.

kiki1978 · December 2012

It's amazing the rude things people will say to their family members. I think you're probably hyper aware because you are thinking about TTC #2. Try to let it roll off your back, but if they continue I think I would say something about how it bothers you when they act that way.

krdesi · December 2012

I am the same way...it may be sensitivity on our parts but I don't like when people give their input about my decision to try for a baby when I have not asked for it! I haven't told anyone in my family other than my sister because before we even started trying, certain family members made comments about how we should wait 5 years or we should wait for me to get a job (when we are not living like homeless people because I have not gotten a job)...either way...if we waited for every little thing to align, it would never happen. Do what you think is right for you!

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