Also about moving LO to room..

ShadowsRainFalls · December 2012

So here is the story:

LO is 14 weeks today, and gets up anywhere from 1 to 8 times a night. Normally about 2 or 3 times. He goes to bed between 6pm and 7:30pm. We have tried to push it to 8, but he often skips a good PM nap, so hes ready to just go down at this point. He sleeps in a mini crib next to our bed. He has his own room, and his own crib, but IDK if I should move him if I am up so much at night. I am afraid I wont actually get any sleep, as sometimes he falls asleep for just 10 min before getting up, several times. I have to rock him again and put him down and hope he stays out. This can last for an hour and a half to 2 hours sometimes before he actually stays asleep. Should I just suck it up and try it? I just don't want to have to go back and forth to his room 14 times a night, but I also don't want to sleep on the floor in there. I know I must sound crazy. Give me some insight?

Also, I was bf at night, but my supply has officially dropped enough that I dont really have anything to give him, so we have been ff at night. When I say we, I mean I. My DH sleeps. So my question is, is this fair? Should I be having him take on one or two night feedings? I feel like he should be allowed to SSTN because he works, and I don't. I know that's how he feels too. If i really need help at night and I wake him, he will help, but gets grumpy about it. Says he has a hard time going back to sleep. BUUUUTT..I also feel that this is his kid too, and he should be helping at night...no?

What say you, Sept. 12?

KellersPrag · December 2012

I'm about to head back to work but I just wanted to chime in that if you're FFing at night, your supply will continue to tank.

ShadowsRainFalls · December 2012

KellersPrag:
I'm about to head back to work but I just wanted to chime in that if you're FFing at night, your supply will continue to tank.

I'm okay with that. Heading towards the all FF direction slowly.

katiebug58 · December 2012

We moved LO to his room at 6 weeks and he slept 6 to 8 hrs every night that week! Yes, he still wakes and moves around a little but goes back to sleep on his own. He was probably doing this before but since he was in our room we got up with him.

DH does the first feeding of the day around 4am and I get up and pump during that time. I never got much if I pumped after a feeding but get around 12 oz now. I put 4 into a bottle for the next day and the other 8 in the stash!

I would just try it out and see how LO does in the crib a few nights. Hopefully you will all sleep better! I would also talk to DH and maybe tell him that you would like some help on nights that you get up multiple times. Ask him which feeding he could help with.

Hyaline · December 2012

On DH feeding...it's my opinion that you *do* work because you're taking care of a baby all day. If taking a nighttime feeding would be a really undue hardship on him getting sleep for work, I get it, but he doesn't get a free pass just because he works outside the home. If this was me and DH--he'd be taking one of the nighttime feedings. I'd probably leave it up to him which one would disrupt his sleep the least. I guess I'm confused about your question--you say you think it's fair since he works but then you say it's his kid, too--I'd ask yourself if you're a wee bit resentful about this set-up and go from there.

And on moving the baby...I don't plan to move DD until she's down to one feeding a night, consistently. I get much better sleep having her next to me in a cosleeper than I would trucking down the hall every time she needed something. I guess I don't see the point in hustling to move LO--it's not a race Though I will say that we've started putting her down in her crib in her room at night, then moving her (she sleeps right through it), so she's used to going to sleep on her own.

INmommy871278 · December 2012

I'm a SAHM and DH works 8hrs a day plus 1.5 hrs in driving to and from so I do not other him at night through the week. However, Saturday mornings I usually ask DH to get up with DS so I can sleep in. That being said DS is STTN, but the few weeks he was not DH and I had the same set up going. Yes taking care of a baby is work, but when your LO goes down for a nap you can lay down too, DH does not get to take a nap while at work.

Flamingemu · December 2012

I do not ask DH to get up with L at this point because I am still on ML. I don't think it is fair to disrupt his sleep when he needs to be so 'on' at work and his commute sucks. I do nap during the day when she does. This works for us, but I don't have any resentment over the situation and it sounds like you do. Resentment when trying to raise a baby will do no one any good.

As for putting the baby in his own room, give it a shot. Watch your child when he is falling asleep. It takes about 20 minutes for L to fall asleep, jerk awake, fall back etc. So DH & I trade off nights getting her to sleep. We stay in her room and reinsert paci as needed. When she is finally relaxed enough to sleep, we sneak out. Good luck.

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