Daycare (again)

Ariana2O11 · December 2012

DS usually does pretty well when I drop him off. He immediately starts playing and I sneak away. This morning, however, he was super clingy and began to cry after me. I left the room and looked through the window waiting for him to be okay. He and his teacher couldn't see me.

I saw him walk towards his teacher (while crying) and bring his arms up suggesting that he wanted to be held. Well his teacher completely ignored him so he dropped to the floor continuing to sob and looking up at his teacher, waiting for her to hold him.

She didn't hold him. She didn't even try to distract him with a book or toy. I immediately walked in and comforted him. By this time, he was sobbing uncontrollably. She said that she can't pick him up because her back is killing her. Ummmm, Okay. WTH? I empathize that her back hurts, but part of her job is to hold young toddlers.

I told the director who apologized on the teacher's behalf, but did I have a right to be furious or am I just an over-reacting parent?

ETA: I know I did the right thing by discussing it with the director. I guess I just needed to vent about it here.

DoctorWorm222 · December 2012

I have a bad attitude about these things. I pay d@#$ good money for these people to take care of my kid, so they'd better do it and they'd better do it to my liking.

kagl08 · December 2012

This breaks my heart. Poor guy. I'd be furious! If that daycare worker hurt her back and that leaves her unable to perform some duties in her job, then she shouldn't be doing her job while she's hurt. What a pathetic excuse IMO! I'm very sorry, that must have really upset you.

Nita2603 · December 2012

Well, if she cannot pick him up, I may let that slide but not even trying to distract him? Not cool. Ignoring him? Even less. I would be furious too. Daycare is expensive, if she hurt her back, she needs to take care of that and in the meanwhile work in a room with kids who are older or something.

Your kid cannot be suffering because she has a backache. I would keep an eye on it and complain if it happend again.

Elsa1984 · December 2012

If she cannot pick him up, how does she put him on the changing table to change his diaper? And she doesn't need to pick him up to comfort him, she could have gotten down to his level and sat on the floor....he could have sat in her lap until he was calmed down. Stupid excuse....she just got caught.

ellewoodsSC · December 2012

Reading your story made me very sad as I pictured your little boy just wanting some comfort. I don't have any experience with DCP, but it does seem rather callous of the teacher to ignore him when a little distraction or affection would have been so easy to give, without even picking him up. I am glad you brought this up to the supervisor and I'd be scrutinizing this teacher and her behavior towards the kids.

vitan · December 2012

Okay, not the same but when I would take my dog to doggie daycare, I could check in on him via video. He had been reluctant to go a few times but I blew it off. One day I decided to check on him and saw that he was following a worker basically wanting attention. And the guy ignored him. I was heartbroken...and this was my dog.
So I agree with Nita.. If she can't pick up your son, at least acknowledge him. Sorry you had to witness that but glad you talked to the manager.

mamaZbo · December 2012

Yes, you have a right to be pissed. You are paying the daycare to look after your child and tend to his needs. He needed to be comforted and she didn't/wouldn't do it. If she is hurt enough that she cannot preform her job, than she needs to take sick leave, short term disability, or request to be transferred to an older kid room where she would not have to pick them up. Her excuse is lame because she could have patted his head, held his hand and walked him over to some toys, or knelt down and hugged him. I would definitely be peering through the windows again.

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