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The wait
Hey everyone!
Happy Monday! This post is about "the wait". I want to know how ya'll are getting through it. We started our paperwork on October 9, signed our contracts on November 2, and had our first homestudy visit with the social worker on December 5 (we have 2 more). We have done everything that we could do at this point. I'm finishing up our profile book and should be done by the end of the week. Some days the wait seems endless, and some days I don't even think about it. I'm hoping it will get easier. I think that my impatience stems from the fact that we are having a "baby boom" amongst our family and friends. 3 beautiful and perfect baby boys were born LAST WEEK! I am over the moon excited for them, and I can't wait to spoil 3 new babies. I know it sounds selfish, but I just want ours to come. I know that I can say that here, in a safe place, where ya'll understand my pain. We have purchased all of the "baby basics", set up the crib and furniture, and told our immediate families and close friends about our adoption. How are ya'll making it through "the wait"? I have been praying and reading everything I can get my hands on about adoption. I know that we are in the early stages of waiting, and we could potentially have a much longer wait. I would just like some advice from people in the same boat as us. Thank you, and Merry Christmas 
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Re: The wait
Hi there,
Most of the time I was just like you. Some days I barely thought about it (actually most days). Some days I'd read something on here or somewhere else and get really excited and antsy. The typical advice is to sleep, go out with your DH/SO, and maybe do a few back-burner things that would be harder with a child. I wish I'd read more just for pleasure, because I rarely get to do it now.
GL and I hope you have a short wait and successful match!
I've gotten through the paperwork phase by calling my agency and asking them repeated questions about their bad forms for clarification purposes. Other than that, I try not to think about it (you see how well that's working since I'm posting on here), and stay busy. I've also been reading books about it (also, not helpful for the not-thinking part). But I also work, a lot, and often find myself out of the house with work stuff from 5:30am-8pm. (I figure in the event that I do have a quick placement, I should do everything I can to secure my good name in the office since I'm planning on taking an unplanned leave if the baby comes).
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Well our home study process took several months so we just got used to being a bit patient throughout that. I've learned that you should probably expect the unexpected.
I'm not very good at being patient in life most days, but I've learned that so much is out of your control in this process that you have to literally let it go and just take it day by day or you'll drive yourself up a freaking wall.
I try to keep myself busy, I surround myself with a good support system, and I am taking every moment I can to enjoy these last few moments of "just us" with me and my husband. I have a very strong faith that has kept me going on the bad days and I know that God has quite the plan for us and I'm excited to see what that is, but also realize it's not to be had in our timing.
Best wishes as you go through this process! I look forward to hearing more about your journey!
:::Our Adoption Journey:::
Evan James was born 1/24/13 and matched with us 2/20/13. The LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
You get to the point, eventually, where it's just part of your identity, and it's not so in your face. We've been waiting over a year now, and it does get easier, although there are still times when I'm really sad that it hasn't happened yet.
Here's to hoping for a short wait for you!