Dreading more christmasses....

greenteabee · December 2012

I went to my first family Christmas yesterday, and the bulk of what I got was baby stuff. If I were sure of my decision I would probably have enjoyed it more but I just, I'm overwhelmed with all this stuff, and it's Christmas so I couldn't go break down and cry or be sad about it, I had to be happy and grateful. My family knows I'm inbetween my decision and I think maybe they got into their heads that if they got me baby clothes I would keep the boys. I have FOUR more Christmasses to go to, too.

DaisyZH · December 2012

(( Hugs )) That is very insensitive of them. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Try to focus on yourself as much as possible, and if it's too hard consider not attending the other celebrations. Or, maybe you could take a supportive friend as emotional backup.

Dr.Loretta · December 2012

I'm so sorry.

I'm sure they don't know what to do. They want to acknowledge that you're pregnant with your boys, and that you might parent, even for a while. So maybe they're feeling like they need to get you *something* instead of ignoring it completely.

Can you talk to them about how you feel?

sgb721 · December 2012

I'm sorry your family is struggling with being supportive in an appropriate way. Like someone above mentioned, perhaps finding a close family member to confide in about your feelings on being overwhelmed? Best wishes!

jillianmb · December 2012

Ugh that is really hard. I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time with the holidays. Can you ask a close family member to spread the word that you don't want any baby related items right now?

IRR · December 2012

Greenteabee - we are so on opposite sides of the spectrum and yet both feeling the exact same way. I am giving away the clothes I had bought for the LO I as expecting to have home with me now and here you are not knowing which way you will go with your boys. My heart does go out to you since this is obviously such a difficult time for you. Your family and friends I am sure want to be supportive, and if you do decide to parent, then their gifts will be blessings, but if you chose an adoption plan then I can also see the angst in having anything in the house. I agree with PP, perhaps they can get you GC that you can then use for the boys if you need to or yourself if you go a different route. Hang in there. The holidays will not be fun this year, but I guess we should all make the best of it.

greenteabee · December 2012

Dr.Loretta:
I'm so sorry.

I'm sure they don't know what to do. They want to acknowledge that you're pregnant with your boys, and that you might parent, even for a while. So maybe they're feeling like they need to get you *something* instead of ignoring it completely.

Can you talk to them about how you feel?

I'm sure they aren't out to get me or anything, but I know they're definitely doing this to pressure me into keeping them. If I do keep them the baby sutff will be a great thing but if I don't... it's just going to be more painful.

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