dmndsr4eva

Littlejen22 · December 2012

What did the mediator say when you called to tell them about the mistake?

Hopeforthebest · December 2012

I think I must be the only one that reads this girl's screen name as DEMANDS4EVER VS. DIAMONDS....Always have

Littlejen22 · December 2012

Lol Hope. I think you have great advice at the end of the last post. I truly hope she reads it and follows it. I really do think that if she does the right thing and even if he continues to be spiteful it will put her in a much better place which will make her feel better about herself in all aspects of life.

Hopeforthebest · December 2012

Thanks and I really hope so too.

I've been coming to this forum for a long time. It really is a great place to get advice from REAL people in REAL life situations that mirror your own. You can let it all hang out (since we are all internet strangers) and get non bias / non candy coated advice.

I just feel like if she is doing something that isn't working, coming here and getting overwhelming advice all saying the same thing and she continues to ignore it...does she really WANT to change?

I hate for her to waste all this precious time in life being bitter. She will never get over Ex and the new GF and get to be able to live her life with joy if she stays in a constant battle over every little thing. It is like cancer and will eat at her and destroy her from the inside out.

It is hard to be the first one to do the noble thing, when it has been nothing but ugly between two people, but truly it has to start somewhere ....the sooner the better.

twister22 · December 2012

Hopeforthebest:
I think I must be the only one that reads this girl's screen name as DEMANDS4EVER VS. DIAMONDS....Always have

I know it makes zero sense, but I've always read it demons4ever lol.

Hopeforthebest · December 2012

twister22:
Hopeforthebest:
I think I must be the only one that reads this girl's screen name as DEMANDS4EVER VS. DIAMONDS....Always have
I know it makes zero sense, but I've always read it demons4ever lol.

Actually if she keeps acting this way ..it makes all the sense in the world.

Karma1969 · December 2012

I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.

kimmygirl77 · December 2012

Karma1969:
I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.

This! She posts and gets everyone riled up and very rarely comes back and responds to the advice.

SimpleJane · December 2012

Honestly, yeah she's angry and vengeful, but she's dealing with a lot from what she says. Who wouldn't be hurt and angry if their husbands left them for another woman. It's hard to work with someone and be reasonable when you are so hurt and upset, which she clearly is. We all hope we would make the right choices for our children, but it can be hard to not let your emotions get the best of you. I'm not saying she's right, I think she even knows she's wrong, but some people are going a little overboard in the responses in the other post.

Littlejen22 · December 2012

SimpleJane:
Honestly, yeah she's angry and vengeful, but she's dealing with a lot from what she says. Who wouldn't be hurt and angry if their husbands left them for another woman. It's hard to work with someone and be reasonable when you are so hurt and upset, which she clearly is. We all hope we would make the right choices for our children, but it can be hard to not let your emotions get the best of you. I'm not saying she's right, I think she even knows she's wrong, but some people are going a little overboard in the responses in the other post.

But she has been coming here for what, probably about a year? Same advice and no changes. She has a lot of excuses but I have never heard her say she thinks she is wrong, she thinks he is wrong 100 of the time. I am not saying she should be ready to forgive and forget but it has been long enough and she needs to start doing the right thing. He sounds like a POS husband but a Dad that loves his kid and wants to be involved, it is time to work together.

xmaryrickx · December 2012

I thought they weren't married? No?

Littlejen22 · December 2012

You are right, I think they were engaged. Either way, he might have been a POS to her but sounds like he wants to be a Dad

Karma1969 · December 2012

They were allegedly dating or engaged. He found someone new and broke up with her. He wants to be a Dad but she's more about getting back ar him than about being a parent.

She found someone new who sleeps in the same bed as his adult daughter and she is engaged to him.

She posts bits and pieces of contradictory stuff on different boards.

mamastich · December 2012

So I'm a lurker from the single board who's H DID leave her for a thinner pretty coworker when I had a 4 week old LO... This dmndsr4eva chick sounds like a nut. Why does she harbor so much hate? Life goes on and you have a child to raise. In 10 or 20 years our kids will know how we responded and how we treated our Xs And I hope she would be embarrassed of how she's acting. He left you and he will probably do the same thing to someone else, move on with your life

Phantomgirl · December 2012

Karma1969:
I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.

I'm a little surprised at you Karma.

Didn't you say you were a therapist? Seems strange that you can't believe that someone could react to their emotions with anger and focus on another peson as the source of their misery. I would imagine it is not that unusual.

It would be great if you could respond to her and let her know what type of therapy she needs to get past this and what to look for in a professional therapist.

Karma1969 · December 2012

Phantomgirl:
Karma1969:
I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.
I'm a little surprised at you Karma.
Didn't you say you were a therapist?  Seems strange that you can't believe that someone could react to their emotions with anger and focus on another peson as the source of their misery.  I would imagine it is not that unusual.
It would be great if you could respond to her and let her know what type of therapy she needs to get past this and what to look for in a professional therapist.

OMG.

Just because I'm a therapist doesn't mean that I need to be one on TB. I'll offer advice and opinions when It seems like people are really reaching out for help and will consider the suggestions being offered.

I have actually responded many times since she began posting and offered all sorts of honest and sincere advice.

She posts conflicting variations of her questions/vents/story on different boards and ignores any requests for more information or attempts to hold her accountable for her actions.

She is engaged to a man who shares a bed with his 18 year old daughter and she's still very angry/bitter/jealous about her ex. She was with new dude minutes after her ex left. What can I offer other than telling her she needs to be on her own and run to any licensed therapist.

Phantomgirl · December 2012

Karma1969:
Phantomgirl:
Karma1969:
I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.
I'm a little surprised at you Karma.
Didn't you say you were a therapist? Seems strange that you can't believe that someone could react to their emotions with anger and focus on another peson as the source of their misery. I would imagine it is not that unusual.
It would be great if you could respond to her and let her know what type of therapy she needs to get past this and what to look for in a professional therapist.
OMG. Just because I'm a therapist doesn't mean that I need to be one on TB. I'll offer advice and opinions when It seems like people are really reaching out for help and will consider the suggestions being offered. I have actually responded many times since she began posting and offered all sorts of honest and sincere advice. She posts conflicting variations of her questions/vents/story on different boards and ignores any requests for more information or attempts to hold her accountable for her actions. She is engaged to a man who shares a bed with his 18 year old daughter and she's still very angry/bitter/jealous about her ex. She was with new dude minutes after her ex left. What can I offer other than telling her she needs to be on her own and run to any licensed therapist.

Karma I apologise.

I came to the board and was a little shocked at how Dmnds was being attacked with, what seemed to me, no real advice.

I singled you out as I really thought here is a person who could help her.

Anyway after seeing how she reacted to Ann's advice I now 'get it'.

You cannot help someone who does not want help!

Apologies as I am sure you have tried in the past and simply realised long before me that she is not interested in help.

I was wrong!

Karma1969 · December 2012

Phantomgirl:
Karma1969:
Phantomgirl:

Karma1969:
I'm not convinced she isn't MUD.

I'm a little surprised at you Karma.

Didn't you say you were a therapist? Seems strange that you can't believe that someone could react to their emotions with anger and focus on another peson as the source of their misery. I would imagine it is not that unusual.

It would be great if you could respond to her and let her know what type of therapy she needs to get past this and what to look for in a professional therapist.

OMG. Just because I'm a therapist doesn't mean that I need to be one on TB. I'll offer advice and opinions when It seems like people are really reaching out for help and will consider the suggestions being offered. I have actually responded many times since she began posting and offered all sorts of honest and sincere advice. She posts conflicting variations of her questions/vents/story on different boards and ignores any requests for more information or attempts to hold her accountable for her actions. She is engaged to a man who shares a bed with his 18 year old daughter and she's still very angry/bitter/jealous about her ex. She was with new dude minutes after her ex left. What can I offer other than telling her she needs to be on her own and run to any licensed therapist.

Karma I apologise.

I came to the board and was a little shocked at how Dmnds was being attacked with, what seemed to me, no real advice.

I singled you out as I really thought here is a person who could help her.

Anyway after seeing how she reacted to Ann's advice I now 'get it'.

You cannot help someone who does not want help!

Apologies as I am sure you have tried in the past and simply realised long before me that she is not interested in help.

I was wrong!

I understand. I can see how if you don't know her history around here it could look as if I was flaming her.

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