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J&A2008J&A2008 member
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Go ahead and tell me so.

I cried and cried today over the shooting in Conneticut.  It's an unimaginable tragedy.  My heart sank even further when I read that it was speculated the shooter was a parent of one of the kindergarteners (later today that was found to be untrue.)  The number of killings in custody battles is frightening, and I thought this might be another one. 

I have done my best to inform the school of who BM is and her backstory.  There is nothing in her history that would suggest violence like this, and I know it sounds horribly far-fetched, but I think every parent thinks about how a scenario like this would play out if it were at their child's school.  I still would like to talk to the principal about their lock-down drills and maybe even BM.   It seems really paranoid of me.

The flame-worthy part?  I was a little relieved that it was not a disgruntled NCP situation.  Worse, because the randomness means everyone is at risk, but I think I would be more of a wreck if it were a parent of a child in the school.

I'm saying this here because I don't want to say it to anyone in real life, and if there were anyone out there who might have had a similar fleeting thought, it might be on here.

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Non flame-worthy: Did you talk to your children about the shooting?  If so, what did you say and to what ages? 

We just had a cozy family night at home.  I have spent the day praying on and off for the families and community of Newton.  The best tribute I could think of was to make sure to hug my kids and enjoy every moment I can.

We watched Chevy Chase's Christmas Vacation and played some board games.  We didn't talk about it at all.  I don't know if I will, and if I did, for what reason? 

Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • CurlyQ284CurlyQ284 member
    My first thought was that it was a very violent young child. I'm glad that's not the case either. We don't have the girls with us right now, they might not know. BM keeps them in the dark about events. If they do know, we will talk to them about it.

    I just held LO and cried when it was on the news. Its just so awful.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    I'm trying to keep it from DS. =(

    I don't know if it's right or wrong, but I just don't want him to hurt or to be scared.

    I did have him call XH just to say hello. It would have absolutely torn me apart to not be with my kids yesterday. 

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  • sabrina69barnessabrina69barnes member
    imagefellesferie:

    I'm trying to keep it from DS. =(

    I don't know if it's right or wrong, but I just don't want him to hurt or to be scared.

    This. My thinking is that talking to DS about it only has the potential to scare him. He is only 6. It's not like a fire or earthquake where we can talk about what to do if it happens when he's at school to stay safe. We don't have TV so I'm hoping DS wont find out about it.

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  • new+tothisnew+tothis member
    My 2 1/2 year old asked me why everyone was sad about going to school. I just told him that something terrible happened and a lot of children were affected by it. He can't understand because he's so young but I know it bothers him that people are sad. He asked me why Santa couldn't go see their families and give them what they really want to make them happy again... which of course made me cry.
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