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My sister and her unwanted guest...

leller00leller00
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I moved recently from my home town and it has been decided for several months now that my sister would be coming to stay with me for a week or so to help out. So today she sends me a text asking if she can bring he on again off again bf or another guy with her. Well this guy is a total drunk and recovering from a pill addiction. The answer is no of course, but I don't know how to tactfully explain to her why my dh and I don't want her to bring a guest. This is supposed to be about the baby and I not about dudes. Any advice on what to say to her?
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  • leller00leller00

    she will be coming when dd is born to help

     

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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member

    IMO, it's your house and you don't owe her any explanation. 

    If you want to explain, just say you are not comfortable with someone other than family staying with you while you are recovering from child birth and adjusting to life with a newborn. 

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  • bearkatjenbearkatjen member
    imageAllycat11:

    IMO, it's your house and you don't owe her any explanation. 

    If you want to explain, just say you are not comfortable with someone other than family staying with you while you are recovering from child birth and adjusting to life with a newborn. 

    This. Don't even make about this specific guy. You don't need to feel like you're in guest mode postpartum. No extra visitors.  

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  • drpaynedrpayne member
    imagebearkatjen:
    imageAllycat11:

    IMO, it's your house and you don't owe her any explanation. 

    If you want to explain, just say you are not comfortable with someone other than family staying with you while you are recovering from child birth and adjusting to life with a newborn. 

    This. Don't even make about this specific guy. You don't need to feel like you're in guest mode postpartum. No extra visitors.  



    All of this. If you'll be breast feeding you could mention that. You shouldnt have to worry about being discreet in your own home because there is some random guy there.
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  • Allison546Allison546 member
    Not even sure why this guy would want to come. Tell her no and that's that.
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  • jobiannjobiann member
    imagebearkatjen:
    imageAllycat11:

    IMO, it's your house and you don't owe her any explanation. 

    If you want to explain, just say you are not comfortable with someone other than family staying with you while you are recovering from child birth and adjusting to life with a newborn. 

    This. Don't even make about this specific guy. You don't need to feel like you're in guest mode postpartum. No extra visitors.  

    All of this! If she doesn't understand she doesn't have to come. 

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  • ashbee0223ashbee0223 member
    imageAllison546:
    Not even sure why this guy would want to come. Tell her no and that's that.


    This and why would she even want to bring him that's kinda rude. Like pp said, you don't owe her an explanation but just tell her you aren't comfortable with anyone else there while you are recovering.
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