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Terrified
I am new to this board, I found out yesterday that LO is breech 
. I always planned on having him vaginally and didn't even want to be induced, if I could avoid it, let alone a c-section. So obviously, I'm going to try everything I can to get him to flip, but the real possibility of a c-section is depressing and scary for me. I guess I just need some words of encouragement for me to put a positive spin on the situation.
. I always planned on having him vaginally and didn't even want to be induced, if I could avoid it, let alone a c-section. So obviously, I'm going to try everything I can to get him to flip, but the real possibility of a c-section is depressing and scary for me. I guess I just need some words of encouragement for me to put a positive spin on the situation. First Time Mommy!
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Re: Terrified
It took a few days before I was ok with it. I realized that I'd do whatever it took to get DS out safely.
The experience was actually really great. My water broke, I went to the OB ER and had a c/a a few hours later. My recovery was great and i would do it all over again. I hope you have a good experience as well and just focus on getting your LO out safely!
I had a C-section with my first, and both of my sisters had vaginal deliveries. After comparing stories, both of my sisters say they wish they could have had C-sections, too.
My recovery was so easy. There was no worrying about tearing down there, or fearing going to the bathroom afterwards. The whole surgery was super-fast. After I arrived at the hospital, I was holding my beautiful son in my arms within a couple of hours.
And it was convenient for my family, because they live in another state, so since we knew the birth date/time, they could make arrangements to be here without feeling rushed and harried.
Plus, on a completely shallow note, my baby looked really pretty because he wasn't all squashed and cone-headed. :-)
I remember being disappointed, too, when I learned I would have to have a C-section, but it turned out to be a blessing, and I'm really glad I'm having one with this child as well.
My situation was pretty similar! I had planned for and wanted a vaginal birth. Of course I knew a c-section was a possibility, but that seemed so unreal, and I think I just refused to believe it would actually happen.
After having my c-section though, I'm very happy that I did. I had a wonderful experience. I knew exactly when I was going to be able to meet my daughter, which was awesome. I liked being able to know that on this set day, I was going to have a baby.
It also made it easier to plan. I knew the type of things I'd want to bring to the hospital, I was able to make sure the people I wanted to be there were available and could make it. My family was able to be there as well because they knew when to take off work.
The surgery itself was quick, and was over before I knew it! I even got to hold DD when they were done with her as they were still stitching me up.
My biggest fear was the pain/recovery. I was very lucky and have had a very smooth recovery. It wasn't near as bad as I was afraid of. I also loved that I wasn't all torn up below the belt. That was my biggest fear about delivering vaginally. Going to the bathroom was never really a huge issue, there's no pain or tearing, and my bleeding has been very light.
I went into this c-section thinking that next time I'll be trying for a VBAC, but honestly this whole experience was so great that I'm seriously considering a RCS.
I'm doing CS#3 in March--they really aren't that bad
Sure, I would choose a vaginal/natural birth and do think it is weird I will never know what it feels like to go into labor...but both have been trauma-free. The second one was the best because it was planned so I was well-rested and knew what to expect.
I hope the baby turns for you and you get the birth you were planning on. But just in case, find out beforehand the procedure so you know what to expect: When can DH be there (often they come in OR after spinal), at what point will you get to hold the baby (OR, recovery, your room), be sure to have DH stay with baby while they are finishing up with you and recovering.
And have a plan for family too. How do you feel about people waiting at the hospital while you are in surgery and then chomping at the bit waiting for you to be out of recovery? Since my first C Section was unplanned we had no plans in place--DH stayed with baby, but while I slept in recovery (for 3 hours) all the family that was waiting in the waiting room was holding our baby--before I did! With #2 my surgery was at 10am and we told family they could come after 3pm, that gave me plenty of time to recover and the 4 of us got to hang out for a while before visitors.
I had a very unexpected and unplanned c-section. After four hours of pushing my OB told me the news and I was terrified as well. My OB was shocked when he pulled out an almost 10# baby (he was convinced he would be under 8#) and my labor and pushing was a pretty traumatic experience.
The bottom line is to remember what is best for you and for LO. After it was over nothing mattered but LO made it to this earth perfect and healthy.
FWIW I would of much rather known in advance so I would of been more prepared for the outcome. Take this time to learn as much as you can in case it does end up happening.
Wishing you the best of luck mama, you can do it.
(Sending flipping vibes your way)
GSx1 - 05/13/2013
GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
Not sure if you're still checking the responses on this post. However I am a surgical sales rep and recently stood in on my first c section case. Now after finding out that I need a c section, I'm actually not as concerned about having one now that I actually witnessed one. Honestly, I feel like there are a lot of misconceptions out there about how scary and bloody a c section is. Yes, you're having surgery and its always scary. However like a pp said, there are cons to vaginal delivery as well. Either way, lets face it ladies. Having a baby whether its via c section or vaginal is not the best thing in the world. But we do it to reap the rewad(s) afterwards. I know it's scary, but just know that c sections are for the most part very safe.
Lastly, my friend who is a PA said that between witnessing a c section and vaginal deliveries while in school, she's much more scarred by the vaginal deliveries. Haha just a side note to make you laugh a little. Good luck!
Don't be terrified! Baby could totally flip before delivery, but if not a c-section is okay too. I had a really good experience with mine. I actually talked about baby showers and nursery with the anesthesiologist through most of it (his wife was due two weeks after me). I am actually looking forward to mine this time because I can schedule it and not have 14 hours of labor before hand. I actually wish I could have just scheduled the first one and not had to go through an induction and labor.
I wanted a drug free birth and then my son and wound up scheduling a c section when I hadn't dilated a week past my due date. It was not what I'd planned for, but in the end, he was delivered healthy and I felt fine with in a couple of days. I was disappointed at first, but now plan to go for a repeat c when we have our second,
I had the same experience a month ago - found out that my lower twin had flipped from vertex to breech at full term. I had been hoping for an unmedicated, vaginal birth. I was so frightened and so, so upset for the weeks leading up to the c-section. At the hospital, I couldn't stop crying, and I was so scared and upset in the delivery room that I was shaking and barely able to control myself.
Having been in your situation, I can honestly tell you that it isn't that bad in the end. I still feel sad about missing labor, and the surgery was scary, but if it's necessary, you'll get through it and you'll have the consolation of knowing that you did it for your kiddo! It's true that once you're with the baby, the whole thing will seem less important and significant than it did beforehand.
Good luck!
hey! try these exercises! This lady had all different types of babies that were not head down--so she made this video on how she got them into optimal position! Don't lose hope! Baby can still turn!