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sabrina69barnes
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Say something or let it go?
sabrina69barnes
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DH married before me. They were married for 3 years total but over a year of that was spent in the process of divorce. This summer DH and I will have been married 5 years.
Today we got a Christmas card in the mail from one of DH's cousins. MIL is one of 8 kids so it's a very large family. I've met all of DH's extended family even though some of them, including this cousin, don't come to many family events.
The card was addressed to "DH and BM Lastname". I threw me off and my first reaction was to be offended. DH and I aren't newly married and they have met me. Yeah it's probably an oversight but why bother sending a card to someone if you don't even know them well enough to remember their name?
This isn't a family member DH is close to. We don't even send them a Christmas card. I should probably just let this got and not be all butthurt over it right?
Today we got a Christmas card in the mail from one of DH's cousins. MIL is one of 8 kids so it's a very large family. I've met all of DH's extended family even though some of them, including this cousin, don't come to many family events.
The card was addressed to "DH and BM Lastname". I threw me off and my first reaction was to be offended. DH and I aren't newly married and they have met me. Yeah it's probably an oversight but why bother sending a card to someone if you don't even know them well enough to remember their name?
This isn't a family member DH is close to. We don't even send them a Christmas card. I should probably just let this got and not be all butthurt over it right?
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Re: Say something or let it go?
I'm thinking I may do this next year. This was my first thought too but we do photo cards and I already mailed all of the ones I bought for this year.
Yeah...the cheesier the better.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
I would not be hurt by it. You don't know how many cards they send out. It's easy to make a mistake. Maybe they used an old address list. Or the non-related spouse asked "honey, what is your cousin's wife's name?" and they answered off the top of their head the wrong answer. It happens.
I'd send a card and point out specifically that they have outdated info, and that dh's wife is yourname. Don't just send them a card with your name on it - they may not register they got it wrong (especially if the person who opens the card is not the same person as the one who sends out their card).