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Christmas Present question

HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
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In the past anytime we tell BM what we are getting SS for Christmas she will purchase the same item and give it to him before we see him. This year is her year with SS. We wont see him until summer visitation. We want to get him this https://jtsplatmaster.com/jt-splatmaster-z200-shotgun Based on the nature of the present (the paintballs + mess. Even tho water rinsesoff) I think we should give BM a heads up. Thoughts?

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Re: Christmas Present question

  • cole2144cole2144 member

    I think you have to due to the fact that I have seen people after paintball with huge welts on their skin. That could turn into a major issue. If it was just about the mess, I would say keep it at your house and call it a day.

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  • dor79dor79
    I would definitely give her the heads up due to the nature of the gift.  If someone were to buy that for my son I would say thank-you but no. 
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    In all honesty (and I am pro airsoft guns for age appropriate children), if this came into my house, my under 13 yo would not be using it AT ALL.

    In the end, even though they are supposed to not leave welts and not stain, I would still be the one to clean everything up after ensuring that he (AND HIS FRIENDS) were using the equipement properly.

    Now, if you want to get it for him to have in your house during your time, have at it.  I actually think paintball, laser tag and airsoft guns are wonderful teaching tools. 

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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    How old is the kid? I would never give this type of gift to a kid for use outside my home.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    She really buys the same gift for him that DH tells her he is going to send?  That's crazy!

    I would give her a head's up, keep the gift to give him in person this summer, and send something less controversial as his Christmas gift.

    This way, if she likes the idea and steals it, SS still gets the gun and DH still gets him a gift that is not a duplicate.

    Or, if she hates the idea and won't steal it nor allow SS to use it, DH hasn't wasted the gift to sit on the shelf at BM's.  This is the type of gift that would require a lot of parental guidance, so I can imagine she might not want SS to use it.

    Either way, don't send the gun and DH and SS can have fun playing with it together this summer.  Even if BM has already given him one at Christmas, the fun of playing with his father (make sure to get DH one too) will not be a duplicate.

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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