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September 2012 Moms
MomtobeNJ
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Help needed - sleep training question
MomtobeNJ
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I know LO is still too young for "official" sleep training, but I have a question. We moved her into her own room this week, and kept her in the bassinet for a few nights. It's been hit or miss - one good, then one bad night of sleep. But naps have been a nightmare. She slept on her own for about 1/2 an hour yesterday. Other than that, every nap attempt has lasted 1 - 6 minutes and then she's awake. Tonight we were planning to start her in her crib, but I don't know what to do.
She has never been able to put herself to sleep. I either rock or walk her, wait 15 - 20 minutes and then put her down. I will work on this next. Right now I just want to get her used to her room first. I'm letting her take at least one nap on me so she gets some sleep, but she's still overtired and cranky and I feel terrible about it.
So the actual QUESTION is...
Should I remain consistent and just give her a few days to "get it?" Or scrap the whole idea for a few more weeks and keep her in the bassinet and napping either on me or in the swing? Is this just an adjustment that may take a while (we're on Day 3)? I'm concerned because she's not getting nearly enough sleep. My cousin told me, "Don't give in - when she's tired and she realizes the crib is her only option, she WILL sleep." True? Good advice? I have no idea.
The only reason I wanted to do this now is because she starts daycare in 3 weeks and they nap in a mini crib. I was hoping I could make the transition a little easier by starting her in her crib at home beforehand.
Thanks in advance.
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Re: Help needed - sleep training question
I had a hard time with my second getting used to the crib. I think it had a lot to do with going from something small RnP to a huge crib. I used a baby stay asleep and it really helped and he is used to it now and doesnt use it.
Also I agree on the being consistent it can take some time for baby to adjust. I know it tiring but she will get the hang of it
Thank you. What's that - a baby stay asleep?
I'm not worried about me being tired. I'll live! I just want to do the right thing for her and to make this easier - not harder (for both of us).
Stick with it. By the time you get to daycare, she'll be a pro. My LO still has a hard time falling asleep on her own, but I started putting her down drowsy and she's doing pretty well. It seems she does good for 3 or 4 days, then has a bad day and we have to start over.
GL!
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
If it were me, I'd do it all at once. IMHO you're going to confuse her by letting her nap once on you but not the other time/s.
Rock her to sleep and then put her down in her crib and sshhh/pat her hiney until you see her falling into that deep sleep. It's been my experience that lo will continue to wake up if I stopped patting her butt until she was in this deep sleep.
good luck, whatever way you decide to do it!
We had this exact problem with DS. He was in the RNP in our room and then we moved him to his room after about 2.5 months. He loved the RNP because he was snuggled in. He is a weird baby in that he hated to be swaddled but when he got to his crib he wasn't in "tight" anymore. So I recreated the RNP in his crib. The crib mattress is propped up at an angle and then I used 2 towels rolled the long way under his crib sheet to make an egg shape. He fits right in and has something for his head to touch. He's done pretty good. He'll usually sleep about 7-8 hours a night in there straight. We're also doing naps too. I would stick with it. It'll be hard at first (no lie) but it'll get better. We also bought a noise machine to help him if he wakes up while we're sleeping. He does really good now!
I was planning to do it all at once too, but I feel SO bad by the afternoon. She's overtired and we're both crying. It's been an awful 3 days.
If I put her down drowsy, no matter how tired she is, patting and shushing just don't work. She talks to me, then fusses, then cries, then has a meltdown. EVERY time. And she won't take a pacifier. Putting down drowsy is just going to have to come later. And for the past 3 days I've left her in there for 20 - 30 minutes after she wakes up and she hasn't fallen back to sleep on her own once. I know she will eventually. She just doesn't seem ready for that yet.
https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Stay-Asleep/dp/B004QRMUO2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1355432465&sr=8-1&keywords=baby+stay+asleep
ETA: A little "fancy" and spendy you could acheive by using rolled up receiving blankets. It was just nice for us since everything stayed in place while we had to elevate the mattress due to some reflux issues
We do have a white noise machine. I may need to try the rolled up towel thing.
Thanks!
This is interesting...I wish we'd had that from the get-go. My only hesitation in spending $85 in that she's starting to roll onto her side almost every night - I think she's going to be a side sleeper. This would prevent her from doing that, which may make things worse. I might start with the towels and go from there.
I agree with everything that you said. It was a gift for us otherwise we would've just used towels. GL!
I need help getting him to sleep as well. nathan will only sleep if I rock him and will only nap for 30-45 minutes in his crib.
He sleeps for a 5 hour stretch at night but then after that it is only 2 or 3 hour stretches. I've tried leaving him in there and patting, shushing, etc. but nothing works until I pick him up. If I leave then he full out cries. Today he woke up and was quiet in there but after 20 minutes of him just lying there I went and got him.
My SIL keeps telling me to let him CIO but he is only 2 1/2 months old and I'm not doing that. She said she started it at 8 weeks with her kids. I remember babysitting for them and I had to pretty much sit on my hands to not go get them and rock them to sleep. I keep telling her that CIO isn't for me right now and she just tells me that it is hard but it is worth it. It's not worth it for me right now!