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Bad parenting or ingenious?

ATMmom324ATMmom324 member
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DD will gobble her food or throw it all to the dog and then beg for everyone elses food.  It is the exact same as we have.  If we remove her from where we are eating she does nothing but scream.  It is making meal times a giant PIA.  My mom bought her this flashlight that has a Mini Mouse head on it.  When you push a button a small fan starts and blows "snow" around inside.  I am not sure why but she is terrified and will not go near it.  Last night when she started her dinner shenanigans I turned it on and put it on the table.  She ran into the other room and played quietly while we finished dinner.  I don't know if this was the best idea ever or if I have scarred my kid for life.  
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Re: Bad parenting or ingenious?

  • tarebear9891tarebear9891 member

    To be honest, I would not do any sort of punishment/reward system when it comes to food. You don't want her to associate eating with fear.

    We have been through this phase with both boys. They either eat what's put in front of them or they are done. If they throw food they have to help clean it up. After a lot of consistency, meals have gone better (still not perfect though).

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  • shadypinesshadypines member

     Ingenious

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  • tarebear9891tarebear9891 member
    I'm not against the using it for other purposes though. Like I would probably set it on the entertainment center to keep them from messing with all the flashy buttons.Stick out tongue
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  • MissNikki007MissNikki007 member

    This reminds me of when ScoutKate scared Betsy away with her hair dryer so she could finish her makeup in peace. Hilarious.

    I vote ingenious.

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  • Libby1978Libby1978 member
    imageMissNikki007:

    This reminds me of when ScoutKate scared Betsy away with her hair dryer so she could finish her makeup in peace. Hilarious.

    I vote ingenious.

    I thought about this exact thing.

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  • FianschneidFianschneid member
    Like pp, I try not to stress too much about eating. You pretty much just redirected her, right? I vote ingenious.
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  • tarebear9891tarebear9891 member
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    First.. OP... I totally lol'd at this.

    But tarebear... I have a question (sorry for the thread hijack)... When did you start being more serious about the eat what is in front of you or don't eat and the help pick up food thing?  DS is still very little, but he flings food everywhere and is sort of a disaster at meals.  I'm trying to figure out a timeline for putting good practices in place.

    I can't really pinpoint a time. It was more of a gradual progression. Somewhere after a year we started saying "Ok! All done!" When they threw food and we would take them out of the high chair. We would try again a little later if I thought they were still hungry.

    Around 2 is when we started the eat what's on your plate rule. But there were always things on the plate I knew they would eat. I would also let them choose something else if it was healthy, so we weren't strict yet.

    2.5ish I started letting them get involved in picking what was for dinner. "Do you want carrots or broccoli?" When they picked the choices it seemed like they ate better.

    I have a feeling it's going to be a long time before meal times are peaceful again.

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  • ATMmom324ATMmom324 member
    She will eat anything and is a good eater.  She just much prefers what ever is on our plate as opposed to hers.  If we remove her from her high chair she then is relentless about trying to get at our food.  She will not take no for an answer.  If anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this besides scare I am open to them.  She refuses to help pick up the food.
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  • tarebear9891tarebear9891 member
    imageATMmom324:
    She will eat anything and is a good eater. nbsp;She just much prefers what ever is on our plate as opposed to hers. nbsp;If we remove her from her high chair she then is relentless about trying to get at our food. nbsp;She will not take no for an answer. nbsp;If anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this besides scare I am open to them. nbsp;She refuses to help pick up the food.


    I hope you didn't take what I said in a bad way. I just would hate for it to backfire on you where she is afraid to come to the table.

    I don't really know how you stop that. Mine did it too and eventually stopped. I don't think they stopped though because of anything we did.
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  • ATMmom324ATMmom324 member

    imagetarebear9891:
    imageATMmom324:
    She will eat anything and is a good eater. nbsp;She just much prefers what ever is on our plate as opposed to hers. nbsp;If we remove her from her high chair she then is relentless about trying to get at our food. nbsp;She will not take no for an answer. nbsp;If anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this besides scare I am open to them. nbsp;She refuses to help pick up the food.
    I hope you didn't take what I said in a bad way. I just would hate for it to backfire on you where she is afraid to come to the table. I don't really know how you stop that. Mine did it too and eventually stopped. I don't think they stopped though because of anything we did.

     

    No worries.  i don't want to do anything that might make her associate food and fear.  I just am getting annoyed at meal time and it doesn't help that I am usually trying to eat one handed while holding DS during the meal.  You would think that with the way these kids are at meal time the weight would be falling off. 

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    imageMissNikki007:

    This reminds me of when ScoutKate scared Betsy away with her hair dryer so she could finish her makeup in peace. Hilarious.

    I vote ingenious.

    LOL. I thought OP bordered on cruel, but this reminds me that it's funny.

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    Can you buy that at TRU? They have a Mickey version, right?
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    imageMissNikki007:

    This reminds me of when ScoutKate scared Betsy away with her hair dryer so she could finish her makeup in peace. Hilarious.

    I vote ingenious.

    Hahaha! 

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    imageHilarityEnsued:
    DS is still very little, but he flings food everywhere and is sort of a disaster at meals.  I'm trying to figure out a timeline for putting good practices in place.

    DD was super messy a few months ago too.  Does he eat off of his tray?  I got a few suction bowls to serve her food in and she is much less messy now.  When I put food directly on her tray she still tends to do the hand/snow plow thing.

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