- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Babies: 9 - 12 Months
acaudill75
member
Pacifiers
acaudill75
member
I'm sure this question has been asked a bazillion times, but humor me ... I didn't use a pacifier with DD1, but DD2 had colic, and it soothed her. I hate it with a passion, and I keep saying I'm going to get rid of it at 8 wks, 4 months, 6, etc. See a trend? I'm actually scared my nine month old will seek me out in the night and hold a knife to me until I give her pacifier back. I definitely would like to have it gone by her first birthday. Aside from CIO, which I personally can't do, what have you ladies done or are thinking of doing. I have no problem with CIO, but would have to leave the house and let DH do it. My blood boils when I hear her scream like that, and I would just give in anyway. I'm such a hardas* with everything else, but I can't take that scream, you all know which one, and I just give in.
Thanks.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Pacifiers
DD had one until a month before her third birthday. Honestly, I would say it might be easier when you can reason with her. Peds usually say to get rid of it ASAP, but for sure by two. You'll probably have more success when you can get her to agree to "give it to the new baby cousin", trade it for a toy, or something like that, then be able to remind her when she asks for it where it went.
We "left them at Disney World for the other, littler kids". When she would ask, we would remind her where they were and it made it okay.
That's what I was afraid people would say. I hate those stupid things. She gets such horrible rashes from them.
Now that you say it, we did this, too. She was never allowed to have it anywhere but in the car and bed, but we did cut out car before going cold turkey.
Personally I would do it when she's older (mostly because we got rid of DD1s dummy when she was a little over 2 and it was a doddle)
I think there's an awkward age where babies are old enough to remember the dummy and know they want it, but not old enough to be reasoned with.
We only allowed it at nap time and bedtime. We did the dummy fairy routine.
If you don't want to let her CIO. You could try the baby whisperer's pick up/ put down and shush pat methods. Basically you rock LO until drowsy, and then place in cot and pat until asleep. If LO starts crying you pick up and start again. You pick up as often as needed, and put them down again as soon as they are calm.
If you haven't done that kind of thing again, and as you'd be taking away the dummy I imagine it would be quite an exercise in patience and persistence, but if you stick with it, then it should work.
ETA: for the rash DD has had a rash around her mouth that I'm pretty sure was sparked by the dummy a couple of months before we got rid of it. Dr recommended vaseline jelly around her mouth as a barrier before eating, and bepanthen ointment at bedtime.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Thanks, I will try that. I like the "dummy" thing to. They are dumb, but they served their purpose. :0
I weaned DS after his first birthday. I did not see the rush before that. I started by not letting him have it during play time. then not during the day at all. next paci with naps were eliminated and last was night time. I would say by 15mo he was no longer using a paci. It was not a huge ordeal for us. The hardest was nighttime and he def. cried a lot. but surprisingly the middle of the night he did not miss it -- only at the beginning of the night to fall asleep. I played replaced the paci with soothing music and he got used to that. Then after the new baby was born we stopped playing the music (for no particular reason) and he never missed a beat.
My oldest gave it up on his own at 2.5. I had planned to take it away at 18m but due to a move and then his dad deploying, I decided that he had enough big changes going on and since he only got it in the car and for sleep, it wasn't a huge deal. He's been going to the dentist since age 2 and the pediatric dentist said not to worry until age 3 and if he still had it then, we would need to take it away. He was never allowed to have it outside of his crib or carseat. Most of the time, within 30 minutes of falling asleep, he would spit it out.
At 2.5, he started biting holes in the nipples and would hand them back to me saying it was broken. When we got down to our last paci, I told him it was the last one and if he broke it, he wouldn't get another one. I handed it to him, he bit it then handed it back and cuddled up with his pillow and went to sleep.