But I am trying to stay positive. We recently lost our little girl at 20 wks. I have my follow up with the doctor on Friday but trying to prepare myself by learning what our next steps might be. If you had a loss around 20 wks when were you able to try again? What do they do at the follow up appointment? Our daughter died from a non genetic brain abnormality neural tube defect, so I dont know if they will advise me to take any different prenatal vitamins or just additional folio acid. anything you can share would be greatly appreciated.