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Um...okay step-mom...

sapphirebride06sapphirebride06
in February 2012 Moms

I got an email from my step-mom asking for our shipping address so she could ship the boys gifts.  So I asked her for gift ideas for her and my dad and my grandma who lives with them.  I'm expecting her to say pictures of the kids, something grandmotherly (ish?).  And she emailed back she is requesting money.  She said she and my grandma want to go to the casino but they don't have money.  So she wants money from us as a gift.

I would expect this from a 13 year old.  Not a 55+ year old woman.  We aren't close so this is double weird/rude for me I think?  Maybe I'm looking into this too far?  We get along, I just don't know what they like or don't like really.  I was planning on doing them photo mugs with our family pictures on them of the boys since my dad is a coffee drinker and he said she drinks tea.  But now I feel like if I get them that and not straight cash she will be like wtf?   

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  • jmccall79jmccall79 member
    I too find it a little rude when people ask for cash.  I don't know why but I do.  Now, if they ask for gift cards, that doesn't bother me for some reason.  I'd go with the mugs anyway!

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  • sapphirebride06sapphirebride06
    For some reason young people wanting cash makes sense - like teenager to college grad ya know?  I get that.  But 55?  For gambling...?  I don't know I'm major side-eyeing this right now.  
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  • Jlobebe2012Jlobebe2012 member

    Wait.. what??

    Cash to gamble none the less.. WOW

    I would love an extra 200 to go try my luck on the poker tables but I would never ask for that as a gift. That is rude.

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  • lancyjolancyjo member

    I personally wouldn't care if she was like "wtf". It's incredibly rude for an adult to ask for cash as a gift, IMO. Especially in this sort of situation. I'd send the photo mugs and say "Merry Christmas".

    If someone complains about a gift I give them, they don't get one next time.

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  • christinak22christinak22 member
    That's ridiculous. And it's not like you were planning on spending a whole ton of cash on them (which you shouldn't, don't get me wrong), so a gift of a $20 bill would be even more ridiculous. What is she expecting? A big, fat check from her stepdaughter? So weird.
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  • Lena122Lena122 member
    That is really bizarre. Can you do a gift card to the casino? I don't think I'd give straight cash.
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  • sapphirebride06sapphirebride06

    I don't know what casino they even go to.  We see them maybe once per year, if that.  They have seen my oldest son 3 times and my youngest now once.  Granted they live about 6 hours away but even when they lived closer they didn't come to see us.  My dad was never really a dad to me, we are more like friends I guess.  And she was never maternal - her own bio kids didn't live with her - they lived with their dad.  She's not motherly at all.  we get along and she is nice to me and all but we aren't close by any means.  And I think it is strange to think I will give her cash.

    My point is we aren't close and she's never been a mother figure to me - she is married to my dad and that's our only connection hence why I know nothing about her.  I do know she used to be an alcoholic so I'm weird about giving cash for some reason?  Maybe I'm inadvertently judging her?  I don't know. 

    Glad I am not over-reacting.  I think she is leeching off my dad - she isn't working and is "taking care of" my grandma.  Well if grandma can go gambling I think she's fine!   

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  • jldubb0626jldubb0626 member
    Yeah, I'd never send cash for gambling. This year my MIL and FIL are in a rough spot with my MIL's deteriorating health, so we're going to send them money to help out with whatever they need and a gift card to their favorite restaurant. But that is something completely different. I think it's incredibly rude and childish to ask for cash like that and I'd still send the mugs.
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