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I have got to say...

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DD is obviously happier since H moved out.  Right now she's dancing to her toy that make music.  We were giggling hysterically earlier and now she's trying to get me to dance with her.

I am so happy she is happy!

I told H this yesterday. I hope he realizes at some point our divorce IS best for her more than either one of us.

"he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • xmaryrickxxmaryrickx member
    This makes my heart sooooo happy for you and DD!!!
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    I am sure can sense you are happier and that makes her so happy. I am glad she is doing so well. You have to post a pic one day.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    imagetifanico:

    Kids really feel when we adults are happier and more relaxed and they pick up on it.

    Now J, you know I really like you but you had no business telling that to your ex. I'm not saying that she is not happier but those things you shouldn't be saying to your ex. I know you are just starting the process and still trying to figure out what is the best way to communicate but its best if you see your relationship with him as a business one. You don't have to keep justifying your divorce to him over and over.

    What were you expecting from him? To tell you that you are right? Its obvious that he will always blame you for everything just as a way to not look at himself and see that he was at fault here. You need to move on, its a process but you need to start somewhere. If you are not going already, I would recommend counselling for you to help you sorting out your emotions. 

    I really hope you understand that I mean well. 

    This, I know he has put you through a lot but there is no good that will come from saying things like this to him. But on a side note, glad to hear your DD is doing well.

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  • OoglybearOoglybear member
    imagecole2144:
    imagetifanico:

    Kids really feel when we adults are happier and more relaxed and they pick up on it.

    Now J, you know I really like you but you had no business telling that to your ex. I'm not saying that she is not happier but those things you shouldn't be saying to your ex. I know you are just starting the process and still trying to figure out what is the best way to communicate but its best if you see your relationship with him as a business one. You don't have to keep justifying your divorce to him over and over.

    What were you expecting from him? To tell you that you are right? Its obvious that he will always blame you for everything just as a way to not look at himself and see that he was at fault here. You need to move on, its a process but you need to start somewhere. If you are not going already, I would recommend counselling for you to help you sorting out your emotions. 

    I really hope you understand that I mean well. 

    This, I know he has put you through a lot but there is no good that will come from saying things like this to him. But on a side note, glad to hear your DD is doing well.

    Agreed. He's going to take it as "Your daughter hates you and she's better off without you."

    But I am glad for you that YD is adjusting well. 

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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member
    I think if it was phrased as "DD is picking up on the fact that we are both happier, and it's making her happier" there's nothing wrong with it.  In theory he wants to see his DD happy too.
    Mama of 2: one who grew in my womb, both who grow in my heart.
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    That was the intent Future. 

    I didn't say it in a nasty way, I told him during a good conversation.  He asked how she's been doing and I told him I can tell she's doing really good and I'm seeing her behavior improve now that she's not witnessing our fights and attitudes toward each other.

     He took it well and not in a hateful way at all and was glad to hear it.

    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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