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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
BeachMama7693
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sleep problems... those that successfully transitioned from bedshare come in!
BeachMama7693
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My lo has shared our bed basically since newborn. I finally decided it was time for her to sleep on her own because it seemed neither one of us was sleeping well (i guess i should add in that i exclusively have BF with no bottles... we are down to bedtime nurse and sometimes a 5 am) anyway so i set up her toddler bed because she hates her crib. i moved her into her own room, she goes to bed wonderfully (i lay down with her) but she wakes up 5-6 times a night! i sleep with the monitor in my room and go to her right when she cries. i do a paci insert and if she still wiggles and fusses i lay with her until she is asleep again. will this all pass? when will she stop waking so much??!! im exhausted. please share with me your experiences!
adding in that bedtime is 8 pm and she wakes for the day around 7:30/8 am
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Re: sleep problems... those that successfully transitioned from bedshare come in!
DS just started STTN at about 15 months although he has been in his crib since 6 mo and bedshared or co-slept in his PnP prior to that... so I'm sure it is a phase since your LO is just not used to it yet... He used to wake 5+ times a night from birth to 1 year, and then it started going down, so I feel your pain
Having not been there yet, I can only make some suggestions that I would try...
If you can, you might try co-sleeping in the same room until DD is used to you being there, but not in bed with her, and then move her to her room by herself
Another thought, we were told that if DS fell asleep one way, when he woke up if it wasn't the same he might be disoriented and have issues; so instead of getting in bed with LO to put her to sleep, is there anyway that you could maybe sit next to the bed or something? That way she doesn't expect to wake up with you in the bed with her?
also, you're bedtime/waketime is fairly similar to ours so I'm don't think that is an issue so long as she's not up for long periods of time when she wakes up...GL!
Oh, that is a lot of change! We BS'ed until DS became mobile and we'd wake to him darting towards the side of the bed and we didn't want to move our mattress to the floor, so crib it was. We still cosleep, though, as we live in a 1 BR city apt. That transition was brutal! and happened just about a year ago now. I have a journal that I write in every night (that mom's one line/day for five years thing) so I can see what was going on. I sounded like it was the end of the world....and it certainly felt that way!
His cries tore me to shreds, but the crib was where it was safe, so that wasn't a choice. I agree that a big kid bed in another room might not be ideal for this transition. I'd still suggest the crib (she is going to hate it at first, no doubt about it!) because that will eventually allow you to get some sleep.
We are also EBF/no bottles and he didn't start STTN until TWO WEEKS AGO!!!!!!!! It sucked. But it helped that he was right there and I could stumble to my chair, nurse, tuck back in.
He now loves his crib and goes to bed peacefully (most nights) and is used to our sounds when H and I come to bed and doesn't wake at all.
We never did CIO but there were times when he got older that I could distinguish the different cries they develop - mad cry I let go a little. Now those are called tantrums. Scared/sad/frightened cry, no, not at all.
This transition will be really sucky and hard as heck and feel much longer than it actually is but you can do it! Everyone will sleep better in the end.
DS is always welcome to BS with us when he feels like it in the future and quits kicking me in the throat
HTH!