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February 2012 Moms
pinkshades05
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My MIL vent for the week
pinkshades05
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We're visiting my MIL over New Years and one of the problems with visiting is that they have cats and I'm very allergic to them. Last time we stayed at their house, I was drugged up on allergy meds, sudafed, and taking my inhaler 4x a day to get through the week. Even then, I was confined to my room because the cats followed me everywhere! And their hair was everywhere...and you get the picture. DH talked to his mom before we agreed to buy plane tickets that either she confined the cats or we weren't coming (she's the one who is pushing us to come). We also agreed that if the cats aren't contained, we are getting a hotel because that's not fair to me or Nat. But hotels are expensive and we don't have a ton of money to spend while we're there.
So, DH talked with his mom last week. What does she say? "Oh, just have her bring her inhaler and she'll be just fine."
WHAT??? Clearly, this woman has never dealt with severe allergies because she is BSC. If this trip goes this way, we will never go there again. I just came back from a trip where we stayed with people with cats (they were friends of friends so we didn't realize/didn't ask). It killed my immune system so I was sick for the week after we got back and then Nat caught my cold and we are JUST recovering. I'm talking 3 weeks of being miserable, itchy eyes and throat, runny nose, sneezing, coughing, horrible sleep, and not to mention my asthma being triggered. I'm not going through this again!!
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Oh no! That's terrible! Could your hubs talk to her again, to try to make her understand the situation?
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Oh definitely. He gets irritated when we talk about his mom because he knows how much she bothers me. She's self centered and manipulative and since I am, too, we clash...just kidding! I hope I am not like her! Anyways, I requested a new inhaler this morning so I think I can bring this up again without starting a problem. I just hate it when these problems get brushed off and I'm told to deal with it when this is a problem with my health.
Can you ask your doctor about an allergy shot? I'm thinking that even though the cats are confined their hair will still be every where and cause you to get sick. Even if you get a hotel room you will probably be over at their house quite a bit and be exposed to the cats quite a bit.
From what you wrote I doubt that your MIL will do a deep cleaning before you arrive if she thinks it's okay for you to just bring your inhaler and tough it out. Next year you should definitely make them come to you!!
I've never heard about this for specific allergies, but this is what I read: "Allergy shots are another option. Allergy shots are not always effective, and completing treatment can take years." That might help in a few years, but definitely not in a few weeks! I just like the idea of never going back there ^.^
We're having a bit of the same problem for Christmas this year, too, actually. My H is like you--incredibly allergic to cats. The last time we spent more than an hour at my aunt's house, he had to use a nebulizer to open his airway back up (this is after taking allergy meds as a precaution). My aunt wants to have Christmas at her house again this year and I told her that I don't want to have to leave early because my H can't breath and suggested we do it at my house. She didn't like that idea and thinks maybe we can have it at my mom's, but my mom is on call (nurse), so she may not even be there. I don't know what the problem with my house is, but whatever. We'll be packing the nebulizer and leaving early, I guess!
Your problem is obviously more severe, since you'll be staying overnight at your MIL's house and won't be able to leave. I'm so sorry for you! I don't have allergies myself, but I see DH suffer and can't imagine having to go through that just because someone else is stubborn. Lock up your frickin' cats, people!
I feel your pain. I have asthma and am allergic to cats + a million other things too. If I take allergy meds + people clean/vacuum and I don't sit where the cat always sits and the cat doesn't touch me, I can make it through with just some sneezing and itching. If she is going to do nothing and not even put the cats in another room when you go, I would get a hotel and not be making a trip there again, she can come to you.
I did the allergy shots for 4years. They inject a little bit of what you are allergic to (like cat dander) under the skin of your arm 1x a week and it is supposed to change your immune system and make you less or not allergic anymore. Well, I retested after 4 years and was MORE allergic! And I was getting 3 shots 1x a week all that time- all for nothing!
Ugh, that sounds awful! Last time I went, they got the floors cleaned, but still let the cat roam around the house. So I stayed in my room the entire time except when we went out and ate dinner. That was it!
Also, my other issue is that if you want us there, you really need to make accomodations and not expect us to make them. I understand that the cats "were there first" but I honestly would have rather stayed home than to deal with them. I'm only doing it for DH.
Try Priceline for cheaper hotels. Anyway to use CC points?
I wouldn't stay in her house. That sounds miserable!
We don't have points, but would use my DH's company discount. At least it is something!
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