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I need to vent

ashlin242000ashlin242000
in February 2012 Moms
I feel overwhelmed as a single parent. My house is a disaster, I forgot to go to the dry cleaners so have no clean clothes, emma has no clean pj's as she outgrew all but three sets and there all dirty and I am too tired to turn the washing machine on.
I have a three hour commute to work and back every day so I never get to see emma.

My ex left me when I was three months pregnant after 17 years of marriage for another woman. I hate that he gets to enjoy Emma but also do whatever he wants.

I have not had a night to go to dinner or a movie in a year and a half.

I have not had a good night sleep in 9 months.

I hate to whine but needed to vent. The lack of sex could be causing my bad attitude :
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  • nebraska84nebraska84 member

    I am sorry you are having a rough time. I have been thinking of you lately because I know you were trying to transition Emma from the RnSleeper to her crib, as we are doing with our LO, and I was wondering how that was going? We ended up just letting LO cry himself back to sleep, it has only been two nights, but it seems to be working. It is super hard but in the long run you may get some sleep.

     I am sorry you are struggling some much and your ex was crappy to you, know that you are doing all you can, and Emma appreciates everything you are doing. Hang in there!!

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  • NatnDylNatnDyl
    ((hugs)) I'm so sorry you are dealing with all of this. Is there anyone who can watch Emma overnight so you could have a good nights rest? Or are there any options to work from home/telecommute a day or two per week to cut down on your commuting time?
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  • Mar5195Mar5195 member

    Ugh I'm sorry.   Do you have good friends or family near by you could leave her with.  Maybe drop her off on a Friday night so you can drink wine, laundry and sleep a solid 8 hours?

     

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  • ashlin242000ashlin242000
    I was meaning to thank everyone for the advice. I tried elevating the mattress and that seemed to work. She still wakes up at least once or twice a night and I caved and put her in the RnP at the weekend because two teeth broke through but it's been much better.

    I really have a great life and great kid. I just am sick of feeling so disorganized and hate having a messy house. I have my firms Xmas party on Friday. My first night out in ages so I will probably drink a little too much and have some fun. It's great that it's at the ritz Carleton, and I am excited because they paid for attendees to stay the night so I can have a few drinks and not worry about finding a ride home.
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  • ashlin242000ashlin242000
    I basically know nobody in the states. Emma's dad is moving to Germany next year and his folks refuse to speak to me.

    The great thing is my parents are moving here from NZ and mum will be here next week and stay with me untill they find a house.

    I just had a really bad day as my boss is riding my arse and is an extreme micromanager. Basically I want to kick my ex in the nuts and tell my boss to shove it.
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  • pinkshades05pinkshades05 member
    You commute three hours??? How do you do it? What's keeping you from moving closer to your job or finding a job that is closer? And I'm sad you are having a hard time :( I couldn't imagine being in your shoes and having the burden all on your shoulders.

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  • ashlin242000ashlin242000
    I take Emma to daycare which is 10 miles from my house then it's another 10 miles to work. I live in D.C so traffic is a nightmare no matter what time you leave in the morning. I am very lucky she sleeps in the car and the time it takes to get to daycare is only 30 minutes it's when I leave daycare for work that takes the longest.
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  • Jeanine88Jeanine88 member
    I am so sorry. :(  
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  • jmccall79jmccall79 member
    I'm right there with you on most of that. Being single does suck. And I agree, the lack of sex could be a huge part of my frustration. If I could just relieve some tension... Lol!

    In all seriousness... Hang in there! You're a great job with LO and doing what you have to get by. The laundry, well most of it, can wait.

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  • 2chatter2chatter member
    I never had to do the tiny baby on my own, but did seperate from exh when my second was around 6 months old.  Every month it got easier as she got bigger.  Where possible give yourself permission to get a break from being Mommy - and not just for Christmas parties!  Every week.  Hit a bookstore for 30 minutes on the way home - SOMETHING - so you don't lose you.  I take it ex isn't doing an eowknd schedule?  (that in and of itself can be its own special curse).  Hang in there!  That commute alone would kill me.
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