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Sex while dilating/cervix open??

barclayribarclayri member
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Three weeks ago at my 35 wk appt, my doc told me I began to dialate a little and my cervix started to efface....

However, she also mentioned to no longer have sex.

So, why is everyone saying it is ok to have sex to make the baby come?? I also keep reading this. Just want to see what you guys think.

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Re: Sex while dilating/cervix open??

  • nanabanana06nanabanana06

    Um... wha?

    Sex helps your cervix dilate and efface more since it's a natural prostaglandin.  I have no idea why your doc is saying no sex. My docs have all said to have lots of sex. It will help the baby come quicker.

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    Welp, does your DH have a huge d!ck?  That could be a problem. 
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  • barclayribarclayri member

    That makes sense. I'll ask tomorrow when I see her. It's not like we're dying of no sex, just curious.

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  • RaeilyRaeily member
    It sounds like she said no sex at your 35 week appointment and she probably said that because you were already dilating, etc and she didn't want you going into labor at 35 weeks because that's still early. 
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  • PatsyGK21PatsyGK21 member
    Maybe she didnt want you to have sex becasue you were only 35 weeks at the time and didnt want you to go too early.
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  • DMG122183DMG122183 member
    imagesofamonkey:
    Welp, does your DH have a huge d!ck?nbsp; That could be a problem.nbsp;


    Lol maybe this is it!
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  • sthomas1222sthomas1222 member
    No idea why OB is telling you not to have sex. Unless your water has broken or you have one of the other contraindications like placenta previa then there's no reason to not have sex.

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  • Mrs.DeliaMariePMrs.DeliaMarieP member
    Maybe your ob said that at the time because you weren't full term yet?  At this point, you might want to ask again, because there is no problem with sex while dilated, at least as ar as I have ever heard.

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  • kmountkmount member
    I would definitely ask now that you're full term, because you're not going to be able to do it for a long time after baby-- may be nice to get in some lovin' while you still can!
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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member

    imagesofamonkey:
    Welp, does your DH have a huge d!ck?  That could be a problem. 

    LOL!

    OP, maybe she is concerned because you're only 35 weeks (instead of a more optimal 38-42)? Did she say no more sex until __ weeks, or no more sex at all until after baby is born? 

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  • RockyTopVolsRockyTopVols member

    Hey I have an idea that I don't think has been posted yet.

    Maybe you were 35 weeks and not yet full term and she didn't want you to go into labor early? I would ask again now that you are full term.

    Just spitballing here. 

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  • Todd&LauraTodd&Laura
    I was never told to abstain from sex. My husband and I did it to try to jumpstart labor last time. It didn't work.
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  • barclayribarclayri member

    well ladies I did ask my doc, and she is concerned about bacteria getting into the cervix since its open and leading to possible infections.

    She said if u want to have sex, wear a condom. Like I said, we're not hurting for sex, but just curious.

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  • jvdavisbabyjvdavisbaby member

    This is odd.... how long has she been in the practice? I just had my 38wk appt and my ob encouraged sex. Im 3cm and 80% effaced with contractions (nothing regular) and DH and I are jumpin on the boner train every chance we get... this baby needs to get out!

    Like others have said, as long as your water hasn't broken I think your fine :) GET SOME GIRL!!!!

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  • choppinbroccoli22choppinbroccoli22 member

    No sex after water breaks = preventing infection

    No sex now must be because she doesn't want you to dilate faster??? I would ask though, because if she's just being super cautious and would discuss the reasons with you, you might be able to have some wiggle room.

    I had a "no sex" order on me from one midwife during my first pregnancy that my other midwives later poo-pooed, but it was for something else. I had already served time in that sentence, and was annoyed that it was for nothing.

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