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Gifts for foster parents?

lizlemon2lizlemon2 member
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We are adopting two sibling boys from foster care.  They are both in separate foster homes.  Any suggestions of gifts for their foster parents?  The little one has been there since he was 3 weeks old, (he is almost 2), and the 4 year old has been there for 15 months.  They are really sad they are leaving.  But they knew it was happening.  They are both older women and knew they could not adopt them. 

I am at a loss at what to get them.  Someone suggested a framed family picture, but I feel like that is kind of a slap in the face.

We are inviting them both to the 2 yo's bday party in Jan.

Adoption Blog Updated 2/15
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Re: Gifts for foster parents?

  • Neener73Neener73
    When our one set of foster kids returned home, the mom gave us a framed picture of us with the girls and a gift card to a local restaurant.  She also wrote a letter thanking us for taking care of her children.  The most important thing is that we are still included in "family" events.  We get invited to the girls' birthday parties, school programs, etc.  We love seeing the girls and spending time with them. 
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  • elissaann26elissaann26 member

    I would advise against a picture of your family.  Maybe a picture of just the kids, but I'm not really in love with the idea.

    What about a necklace that could have some sentimental significance?  A heart or maybe their initial or maybe their birthstone.  That way the foster mom could wear it without everyone asking the significance.  It was really hard for me to talk about our foster sons when they immediately left.

    You could also got them something to pamper themselves.  Gift certificate to a restaurant or to a spa or for a mani/pedi.

    My favorite suggestion though is what the PP said- a letter from you.

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  • edaireedaire member
    I think that the fact that you even thought to give them a gift is amazing, and shows that ya'll are wonderful people. Since they are making the decision to not adopt them I don't feel that it is a slap in the face. Any small token would be appropriate and much appreciated, especially to a foster parent. They so often get overlooked and are underappreciated. Most of the time, foster parents are taught that we are all in this with the same goal in mind: to keep children safe, provide them with their basic needs, work towards permanency, and what's in the children's best interest. They are obviously selfless people, as they know they are too old to adopt these babies. I think they would love to have a family picture and see they great work they did with these children. Just my opinion :) Good luck!
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  • elissaann26elissaann26 member
    So I actually discussed this with DH last night because I was curious if he had any good ideas, especially since this situation (or close to it) is so fresh for us.  He said that he thought a family picture would be too soon.  While we are very supportive of our foster boys returning home, it still would have stung quite a bit to get a picture of their family right now.  Now later down the road would be completely different.  Just another 2 cents.
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