DH is pissed...

MrsDe2008 · December 2012

and rightfully so? I don't know.

A little background: DH's mom lives about 40 mins from us. Not that big of a deal. She drives and isn't that old (64). She is totally capable of getting in her car and driving here, but she has visited us once since we moved into our new house 5 months ago. ooh, also, she lives upstairs from her single sister, so they could both totally get in the car and come visit. We go out to where she and DH's sis live quite often, so it's not like we don't visit her. Anyway, tomorrow is Sam's b-day and I invited just the immediate family over for pizza and cake. Her actual party is Saturday, but I wasn't going to do nothing for the day of. Well, we just got a phone call from MIL (who sounded perfectly fine on the phone) that she has been sick since yesterday (throwing up and all) and that she won't be making it for Sam's b-day. I personally don't buy it and neither does DH. He was leaving for work so we didn't get to talk about it for too long, but all he said was, don't get my mom an x-mas gift, I'll handle it. uh oh...I'm bracing myself for WWIII.

Thanks for listening to me vent. *sigh*

Rink08 · December 2012

That stinks. It's awful getting stuck in the middle of IL issues. Hopefully things will be smoothed over before you have to see or talk to her next.

kat81again2 · December 2012

ugh, that sucks. We had a similar but not as bad situation with my parents when we lived close to them. They lived 5 min away and did visit often, but did not babysit until DS was about 13 mo old. Then we moved away a few months later because of my job.

I know it isn't their JOB to babysit but I was still surprised that they never did it for so long. At least they visited and were generally involved in his life, though. Sounds like your MIL is not making the effort at all.

erind0213 · December 2012

I would be annoyed at that.

My MIL pulls crap like that and she is 15 years younger them my mom....

Our most on going gripes include:

1. My parents had them over 2 years ago, and figured my IL's would reciprocate, and they haven't. Never once have they offered to have dinner or invited my parents over.

2. Christmas. We see them Christmas Eve. and Christmas day, but they will only exchange gifts with us if we go to their house. So often that means I get to deal with them for 4 or 5 days during the holiday... JOY!

Hang in there. I wish you the best and hope it doesn't blow up too bad.