Poll: how old is too old to TTC for you?

Mrs.V · December 2012

When do you want to be finished having kids? When do you feel is "too old" for YOU (not for women in general) to TTC?

I'm coming up on 34 and I'm starting to question whether I feel too old to think about a third (I'd be close to 36 by the time a 3rd came along). I'm kind of surprised that I feel this way already!

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Smootchy · December 2012

I'm clicking 30 only because I don't want any more/not going to start TTC again. We have 2, we're good, and it happened before 30...
By zero means do I think over 30 is "too old" but for me I guess that's my answer

CoffeeBeen · December 2012

I had DS when I was relatively young so I think my answer was skewed downwards. If I waited another 5-10 years, I bet I'd have a higher "ceiling."

Smootchy · December 2012

mbenit4:
For me, too old is now. I do not want to do the newborn thing in my 40's. JMO

The newborn thing at 40, I think I could handle. It's the 2,3,4 year old thing at 42,43,44 that makes me want to jump off a cliff

SoDoMojo · December 2012

I voted for 30. I had DS when I was 28 and we've since decided we're one and done. Age wasn't a deciding factor at all tho. My emotional well being was.

nancy30005 · December 2012

chapski:
mbenit4:
For me, too old is now. I do not want to do the newborn thing in my 40's. JMO
The newborn thing at 40, I think I could handle. It's the 2,3,4 year old thing at 42,43,44 that makes me want to jump off a cliff

OMFG yes.

tarebear9891 · December 2012

For me personally, I would like to be done by 30. With a few years wiggle room in case things don't go as planned with me finishing school and getting settled in a job. So I selected 35.

Mrs.V · December 2012

For me, I actually feel that my body has changed and I think physically, a pregnancy would be hard on me now.

AquaFlowers · December 2012

I had DS relatively young, and when our second is born I'll be 33. We're choosing to be two and done since we don't want to go through the newborn stage after 35.

ridesbuttons · December 2012

Well, DS2 was born the same year I turned 40, so I picked a higher number than that.

I have a friend pregnant with her first at 48.

Very personal decision.

ETA: my prenancies were both very easy (38 and 40), easy labours/deliveries; I feel more energized now than I did several years ago.

MrsWindyCity · December 2012

Originally I wanted to be done by 30, but we had #1 later than originally thought/planned (I was a couple months shy of 29 when he was born). #2 is due in March and I'll be 32 in April. We are done after this one.

ETA: For me it's not just about the age I conceive/give birth, but the age I will be when all my kids leave my house.

ThreeGirls726 · December 2012

I voted 30. I wanted to be done by 30 but we want 1 more. I will hopefully be done by the early part of 31.

FormerlyKrista555 · December 2012

We hope/plan to have 4. I will most likely be done by the time I'm 36 (I'm 31 now). I have prior fertility issues, so anything could happen. I would draw the line at 40, I think. Hard to say when I'm 9 years away from that point.

My little brother has down syndrome. My mom had him when she was 41. Age plays a part in that. And, seeing as how I have a close relative with down syndrome, I would imagine that my chances of having a child with it might be slightly higher. Not sure though, I've never really looked into it closely.

ougrad1 · December 2012

I can't imagine an age limit for a woman to have a child. I can't....

footnotegirl · December 2012

I was 39 when LO was conceived, 40 when I gave birth. Feel perfectly wonderful and capable of keeping up with her (though I am much healthier now than I was in my 20s or 30s to be honest). We planned one and done ourselves, but I feel like if we'd wanted a second, I'd want one right away and not to wait until 45.

gimmietimmies · December 2012

Now I feel old. If we weren't absolutely done, too old for me would be menopause. Which in my family is a lot older than your poll. And this is coming from someone who at one time wanted to be done before 30. But we changed our minds!

ablou · December 2012

We're planning on TTC our 2nd and final kiddo about 6 months before I turn 35 (I'm 33 now), so sometime between 35 and 40. Hopefully closer to 35!

ougrad1 · December 2012

Spooko:
ougrad1:
I can't imagine an age limit for a woman to have a child. I can't....
Like at all? Because I was just reading Dear Prudie this week (last week?) and there as a letter about a lady who had her twin babies at 60ish. Pretty sure that's past the age limit.

I was 34 with Emerson and 36 with the babies.

At many points in my life I didn't think I would ever have children, always wanted them though.

Most women live well into their later 70's to early 80's now so, if someone was to have their first baby at 40 then, the kiddo would be well into their 20's -40's prior to their mom passing.

LadyXaverian · December 2012

Well, DD was born a few days after my 34th birthday. We might have one more, but I've set a personal cut off age of 38. (At that time, DH will be 45.)

For that reason, I voted 40 is too old for me. Really, I'd like to have our next one (if there is to be a next one) right around my 37th birthday- close to when DD turns 3.

ougrad1 · December 2012

FormerlyKrista555:
We hope/plan to have 4. I will most likely be done by the time I'm 36 (I'm 31 now). I have prior fertility issues, so anything could happen. I would draw the line at 40, I think. Hard to say when I'm 9 years away from that point.

My little brother has down syndrome. My mom had him when she was 41. Age plays a part in that. And, seeing as how I have a close relative with down syndrome, I would imagine that my chances of having a child with it might be slightly higher. Not sure though, I've never really looked into it closely.

I had genetics testing done with both pregnancies and my geneticist told me that in her 35+ years she had seen many more women in their early 20's have babies with DS than in their later 30's into 40's...that shocked me.

LuckyDad · December 2012

I clicked 40, although for me the real number lies somewhere between 35 and 40. DW is a couple years younger than I am. Assuming we have #2 the plan it to get her KU before she is 35 at the latest, which would put me well younger than 40.

I prefer the idea of sending my youngest off to college while I'm still in my 50s.

sucredee · December 2012

I voted for 40. My initial goal was to have my first child before 30....well, we tried for 6 months without any luck and then we stopped. I was graduating and figured I should work a while and get experience before having a kid (my initial plan was that I was hoping to have a kid shortly after graduation, take some time off then go to work). Then we got divorced and I was so happy we didn't have any kids. Met DH who had had a vasectomy several years prior. Got married when I was 33, failed vas referral after that, 1 failed round of IVF and then our success. Had DD at 37.

We are one and done because of several things. DH has 2 DDs that are in college (and we're paying for), we are raising his 2 nieces (13 and 18) and my age. Had I been much younger I would've liked to have had another kid (and if we hadn't had fertility problems....vasectomy was only partly to blame) but I would've wanted them to be spaced out about 4-5 years.

I honestly love having DD now and I definitely don't feel old. Several of my mom friends are about the same age with small kiddos. Life doesn't always play out the way you had envisioned it and that was certainly the case with me. I had always pictured myself with 3 kids. I guess I technically have five, they're just not all mine.

At This point (just turned 40) I wouldn't want to be pregnant but DH's age play a role in that as well as the fact we only had one chromosomally normal embryo each time that I would really worry about that if I were to get pregnant.

I certainly don't think 40 is too old for some people. Sometimes you don't have a say in when things happen.

robinsokj · December 2012

AMA is given extra precautions because there are more risks. It's not for funsies.

laurakaz13 · December 2012

40 is too old for me. But 30 would have been too young. I was 35 when I got pregnant with DD.

MJHershey · December 2012

I don't look down on anyone else for going past it, but I get nervous at 35. We are TTC #2 now since I am 34 and will be 35 next June.

KJmashup · December 2012

I voted 45 because I am approaching 40, and I'd like to think my body is still capable, 2IF aside.

ChuggingWater · December 2012

For me it isn't based on my age, but DS's age. I don't want larger than a 9 (I originally said 8... but now I am like, why 9? Why not 10) year age gap. He is 5.5 now, and we are currently TTC, so....

ETA: I am talking about between 1 & 2. IDK about subsequent children.

RayRay007 · December 2012

I voted 35 but ask me again in 5 years if I haven't been successful in getting pg with #2.

shadypines · December 2012

I voted 35. For a long time I wanted all my kids born before I was 30... oh well! Our oldest is 13. Also-a factor was DH age too.

mom2pottamus · December 2012

Age for me? Don't have one. I was married in my 30's so I started later, and I think AMA is something to think about and consider but it is in no way a big "Danger" sign. Nor is it something that will prevent me from trying for #3.

synchrosally · December 2012

I had to choose 40. If I want a third I'll be 35 when baby is born. I'll be almost 32 when LO#2 comes around. I just don't want to procreate forever!

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