When will or did you start TTC Baby #2?

crystalknpp · December 2012

DH and I have been talking about this alot lately. I started birth control this month and I must admit after almost 3yrs of TTCAL it is the weirdest thing trying to prevent pregnancy. We said we would TTA for another 6 months and then sometime during Summer 2013 ditch the birth control and see what happens on our own for a year or so and if nothing then we would head back to our RE.

I'm not going to lie part of me is terrified of TTC again. I'm scared to death of not being able to get pregnant or more losses. Part of me feels like I'm being greedy and tempting fate by wanting one or two more children. It took us almost 3yrs, 4 miscarriages, and 2 rounds of IVF to have Ben. I just don't know if I'd be able to handle all of that again. Anyone else in the same boat?

ellebelle2384 · December 2012

We'll stop TTA when DD turns 2. We would like 2 or 3 but would like to give DD individual attention for awhile.

WearingRed · December 2012

We will wait till W is 2 and a half to start trying for number 3.

CnAnA · December 2012

We will have to use BC until March at least per doc's orders. We will revisit the issue then. I honestly have no idea how we will feel about it. There's a lot to consider. We hope to have more kids but the prospect scares the hell out of me.

jen629 · December 2012

We started right when I got my first period around 5 months PP and got pregnant when she was about 7 months I certainly did not expect it to happen that fast but we were thrilled

Scooby2358 · December 2012

We had a little trouble getting pregnant with DD, though it was nothing compared to what you and other ladies have gone through. We knew we wanted 2 kids, so we had planned to start TTC #2 fairly soon. We didn't DTD until she was over 4 months old (and very infrequently after that), I EBFed, and my cycle didn't come back until she was 7 months old, so we just never prevented. I weaned DD at 13 months and we got pregnant 2 cycles later (missed m/c), then 1 cycle after that (m/c), then 3 cycles after that (DS).

I know what you mean about worrying about being greedy or tempting fate. After our miscarriages I wondered if we were being greedy by trying for another when we had been given one amazing gift. We aren't going to decide about the possibility of #3 for a while yet, but that's definitely in my mind.

Junebug060609 · December 2012

We stopped preventing when D was about 4 months. It was irrelevant until about 8.5 months out though, when AF returned (I PPH bf'ing for that break from her!). I got BFP #3 days after D turned 1. Unfortunately BFP #3 wasn't a sticky baby either Sad .

We are currently TTA until she returns (docs orders)...but in reality I'm benched until like March or April. We have a move coming up in the fall, FX it's cross country, and need me to not be super pregnant for it. April is seeming REALLY far away right now.

xleslieraex · December 2012

I got my IUD out in Sept. M was almost 2..

DH wanted more right away, but I was terrified. I have no idea how someone can take care of a baby & go through loss. I didn't want to start trying again until I was ready to handle a loss & the months & months of TTC. When I got my IUD out, we didn't start trying, we just stopped preventing, I did track my cycles, so I had a really good idea that our timing was perfect.

I am still shocked that things happened so quick & I don't have high expectations, but I am happy I waited.

tetiananina · December 2012

I'm not getting on BC, Jackson was our first we have agreed to at least one more. I want 2 more. I plan on BF'ing for the first year. We've decided to let nature takes it's course. Ideally once Jackson turns one I would like to actively try but I hate how my body feels on BC and refuse to take it. I won't look into an IUD until baby 2 and condoms won't work either. On an upside my cycle use to be 28 days on the dot so I know when I O but that also doesn't mean anything. Not sure how my cycle will be now.

luvmyducks · December 2012

My 1st priority was making it to 12m of BFing. Since there was a chance my supply would dry up if I got pg I didn't want to start before that point. I also needed AF to come back which she didn't until DD was almost completely weaned--right before she turned 12m. And then we had a trip to Vegas planned when she was 13m, so I wanted to wait until after that.

This LO is a Vegas baby

ETA: I didn't want to use anything hormonal so we used condoms while TTA. We also didn't expect to get pg so easily this time around since it took a while with DD--we would have been fine waiting until she was 18m or so to get pg--just wanted to start since we didn't know how long it would take.

hopingwaiting · December 2012

My body made the decision for me since AF didnt return until after DS1 weaned at 15 mos. Since that was already ok child spacing for us and it took longer than we anticipated to take home DS we started TTC right away. Got pregnant more quickly than TTCAL and despite scary first tri bleeding now have DS2.

drvst8 · December 2012

I really want 2 babies at home...but who knows when that will happen. I need some time heal emotionally first.After we lost Logan we were told we could start trying right away. We got pregnant with DD on our 2nd cycle PP.Which was between 4 or 5 months after our loss. Hence the reason I need some time. But with that said I'm not getting any younger. I will be 31 this month and DH will be 38 so we don't want to wait too long.

cmumama · December 2012

We're on the fence still about #3. If we decide we want a third, we'll start trying next summer. I'll be 35 next year, so we don't want to wait too long. I'm EBF and not on any BC (but we still haven't DTD! Poor DH), so if we get pg before next summer, we'd be ok with it.

JulyMomma2U2 · December 2012

We sort of just let nature take its course.. and, here we are! I would love to have 4 babies, if we are able to comfortably afford that... ! I think for sure after this LO comes I'll go on BC or an IUD or something for a few years.. my body will surely need a rest, as will we

october_artist · December 2012

I want 3 or 4 littles...and I'd be beyond happy if I got pregnant relatively soon. That being said, I'm EBF and would like to continue until LO is 1 at least. No signs of AF right now so we shall see what is in store. As soon as she returns it's TTC again tho. At least that is my plan

ETA: I am worried it will take a while to get PG again so I just want to start trying as soon as I can because I'd like our kids to be relatively close in age if that ends up being possible.

vflipo · December 2012

I'm not looking forward to it. I am strongly considering being one and done.

spincat9 · December 2012

We are starting TTC next week. Scared.to.death. We had hoped to start a couple months ago but I had some health issues to deal with first, so now we're ready. Yikes!

ewilliams1127 · December 2012

I would love to be pregnant right now, but DH says we have to wait until summer. We are on the Dave Ramsey plan and will be debt free except the house in Jan. so we'd like to be able to pay cash for a car if we get a bigger one when #2 comes.

SharonB222 · December 2012

I was TTC#1 8 yrs with 5 pg losses including a very traumatic ectopic pg --- we were pursuing IVF, child-free and adoption options simultaneously. We would not want to "handle" that again; we are fortunate to have 2 snowbabies between us and potential "1 and done".

After our IVF-ISCI-PGS-FET success, it is taking me a long, long time to recover from IF/RPL and I didn't know if I would be ready to TTC#2 ever. I am 40 and "need" to TTC#2 sooner than later. When DD was 13 mos, I was ready! (We'd already been NTNP -mostly abstaining- for 9 mos. No "miracle" for us.) When DD was 15 mos, I made an appt with the RE. I stopped BF (don't offer, don't refuse) when DD was 16 mos.

Our 2 snowbabies (1 genetically normal) give us 70% chance of another live birth. DH and I agreed that if it fails, we would not pursue ART any further - we have financial means, but not emotional means. We would probably continue NTNP for a few yrs knowing our chance of success would be very unlikely (<5%) and in the future we would foster (my thought), possibly adopt (DH's thought), or neither --- fostering during IVF taught me that we could be happily "1 and done".

Wishing you well,

~S

CheesyPeas · December 2012

I'm still undecided. Ideally I would like spacing between 2 and 3 years, probably closer to 2. We're coming up on the 2 year spacing mark next month but my cycles are still messed up from BFing. AF returned at 11 months PP, and I've had one anovulatory cycle, followed by a really short ovulatory cycle, and this cycle is looking anovulatory or delayed O. Clearly my body is not yet back in the swing of things, and I want for things to be more normal before we go down the TTC so that I won't blame myself for acting too soon if we end up having another m/c.

I'm fearful DS might have to completely wean before my body straightens up (he nurses about 3x per day right now) which means TTC won't be on our radar for several months, putting us closer to 3 year spacing.

adoxyinherear · December 2012

I think you're totally strong and making the best decision you can... it's not greedy at all. If you want another baby, you should definitely try for one. Maybe like you said, just taking your time and seeing where things go. *hugs*

I really want to wait until DD is about 18 months before we start trying again, as I'd like her to be at least 2 before she's got a little brother or sister. This is longer than I thought I'd want to wait originally, but I don't think I have the stamina for 2u2. Of course DH said to me yesterday that he just looks at DD and loves her so much he just wants more babies. Crazy!

VeilSdeGTO · December 2012

AF returned at 13.5 months so we are now TTC-ish. DH just wants to NTNP but after tempting/charting/opk/cm watch/etc for so many years, it is hard to not "try" when I have a pretty good idea when O is.

We are going to see how it goes for a few cycles before starting to "actively" try.

D&D4Ever7 · December 2012

DH and I would love to have 2 and maybe 3, God willing. We want to enjoy DS for some time and maybe go on a vacation with him next year before we have another baby. We like to have babies about 2-3 years apart.

csquared426 · December 2012

Since it took us over 3 years, and I had 6 m/c's, we'll be trying starting in January. I'm so terrified of another m/c or seeing BFN's month after month, but DH and I are both 36 and would like 3 kids if possible, so time is not on our side.

hopefulmom81 · December 2012

I am pretty much one and done. We had always discussed having 1-2 children, and I think the emotional pain/stress/anxiety rough L&D might have pushed us to 1.

We are going to reassess when DD is 2 years old (since we had always planned on roughly 3 years apart), but until then, we are TTA like crazy people.

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