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leaving has been a problem

bumpuser511563bumpuser511563 member
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I think I might have a lot of problems with DS where I have actually no where to turn. DS has PDD-NOS.

DS has been doing really good with goldfish and receiving them for good behavior but it has gotten to the point where he is sick of them. I would have done stickers but he just eats them. SO here is where I am lost.

DS has been having some issues leaving from any place.

I am allowing him to take his stuffed turtle with him to help.

Can any of you ladies please share some ideas?

TIA

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Re: leaving has been a problem

  • finsupfinsup member
    Change up the incentive. M&M's, fruit snacks and gummy bears are my go-to's when I need something. Also - are you warning him that a transition is coming? So 10 mins before you leave "DS, we are leaving in 10 mins, and if you make a good choice and leave nicely, you can have an M&M!". Another reminder at 5 mins, another at 1 min and then off you go. I don't have to do this as much anymore, but it worked well for us for a long time. Also, try a social story.
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  • d.fd.f member
    I did a count down of sorts too. It seemed to work well. If I do it now I usually give a choice "we can leave now or in 2 minutes." I also do a lot of First...Then discussions. First we will have lunch Then we will go see Ms Kristin OT. First we will go to the grocery store Then the park... He seems to do better knowing how our day is going to shake out.

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  • LALASEPT05LALASEPT05 member
    We have this too. I agree with the previous posters in the countdown...DS is a little young to realize that it's a countdown but I do remind him a few times that we're going to 'say bye bye' in a few minutes. Just before we leave I will go to him and make eye contact and say 'ok we're going bye bye in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 ok time to go'. Then I scoop him up and leave. He does sometimes fight it at first but I do the same thing in that I'll distract him with a snack goldfish, pretzel sticks, little graham crackers, or juice. It has really helped a lot. We do it even at home when we're switching from one activity to the next. In his therapy sessions he does a lot of switching activities and I think getting the hang of that has helped too. But the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 has been key. I saw one of his therapists do it and I adopted it.
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  • bumpuser511563bumpuser511563 member

    These sound great!

    What do you do if they are swinging and kicking at you and trying to bite you?

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  • Assembly_ReqdAssembly_Reqd member
    a mom friend of mine uses an app for her DD who has transition issues. it's basically a timer and she shows DD that she is setting it and then it chimes and she shows it to her as the last seconds tick down.....
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  • LALASEPT05LALASEPT05 member
    Well I've just kind of figured out how to hold him to limit the damage. I kind of hold him in front of me, facing away from me, and with my arms around his stomach. Or I hold him sideways sort of - like I'm playing airplane. Some times I can pretend we're flying and that we're Buzz Lightyear and I run with him to make it fun and that works. Anything just so i can get him to a different place and try to refocus him. 
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