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Pgal- Anyone have a MM in 2nd Trimester?

bkran30bkran30
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I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and am still very worried about loss. I lost my first one at 16 weeks. I went to the Dr. for a reg. check up and she couldn't detect a HB. I had an US and they determined the baby stopped growing about 2wks prior. I thought I was 18 weeks along. I know it doesn't happen very often, but I don't know anyone else who has experienced a 2nd trimester miscarriage. Any encouraging words or experiences would help

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Re: Pgal- Anyone have a MM in 2nd Trimester?

  • prositter97prositter97 member
    I lost my son, Conner, in February @ 18 weeks. My water broke and there was nothing the dr's could do to help :-( I delivered the next day. I'm currently 12 weeks 2 days and I'm totally paranoid that it will happen again. Even though I know that there's only a 1% chance of it ever happening, I still fear with every appointment that they won't find my baby's heartbeat. I'm schedule for another ultrasound in 2 weeks. I still haven't 'felt' pregnant and that terrifies me. I'm so afraid that I'll miss a miscarriage. 
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  • lisaNDmike08lisaNDmike08
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  :-(  I agree that one of the hardest things about it for me was feeling alone and like no one I talked to IRL had ever been through it.  I definitely had a lot of grieving to do, but here I am now with one healthy baby at home and another on the way.  Don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself plenty of time to heal!  Pregnancy can be extra scary when you've lost a baby.  I know I didn't exhale until after my son was born and we knew for sure he was healthy.  This time, I feel a bit more relaxed about things but I'll never get my naive self back.  If anything good came from the experience, I learned a lot about compassion and made some great friends among the women on these boards.  Big hugs!
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  • 4legsRbest4legsRbest member
    I don't have any experience or words of wisdom for you, but I wanted to offer you hugs and tell you I am sorry for your loss. GL with this pregnancy!
    Me: 37 DH: 40 TTC since 9/09
    #1 BFP 1/10/11; missed m/c discovered 7w5d
    IF Dx: Endo, hetero MTHFR mutation, poor morphology
    #1 IUI: 1/18/12 = BFN
    #1 IVF/ICSI 4/2/12 = 2 x 7-cell and 1 x 5-cell transferred (3dt) = BFP!!
    H was born at 41w2d on 12/29/12 - be still my heart!
    #2 IVF/ICSI 1/19/14 = 2 x 8 cells transferred (3dt) = BFP!! EDD 10/09/14
    M&W born at 37 weeks on 9/18/14 - I am the momma of 3 boys!!!

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member

    I am very sorry for your loss.  We lost our son at 19 weeks.  We went for our a/s and he no longer had a heartbeat.  We are not exactly sure when it stopped, but I do know that I felt movement about a week prior to the a/s.  I didn't worry about not feeling more movement because everyone always says it is inconsistent at that point. 

    I wish I could tell you that this pregnancy has been easier.  I have been stressed the entire time.  I continue to stress over every possibility even though I am almost 36 weeks.  The only advise I can give you is to take it one day at a time, and that every pregnancy is different. 

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickersLilypie - (B9PH)

     

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     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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  • missyjgmissyjg member

    I lost my son at 22 weeks, but we found out it was due to a growing ovarian cancer and his little body couldn't take it any longer. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm constantly worried. I'm 10 weeks and some change and I constantly worry. It's so hard not to. I try to focus on the fact that today I'm pregnant, but sometimes my thoughts run away with me.

    Did they ever give you an answer why your LO's heart stopped? My cousin had 2 second trimester losses due to a clotting disorder. Taking a baby asprin daily helped her carry 3 children to term. I pray that this LO grows strong and that you are holding them in your arms very soon. Hugs.

    TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4

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  • bkran30bkran30
        I'm so sorry for all of your losses. Hugs to you all. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one that this has happened to and that success after a loss is possible. I have an appt. this Thursday and I'm anxious and scared that I won't hear the HB. I'm trying to be really optimistic though. Wish me luck!
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